We all have different body types and different features that make us unique. But growing up, we've all have issues with not loving ourselves. It's gotten to the point where it's hard for us to take a compliment.
We all have something that we don't like about ourselves. Sometimes it's the things we can't get rid of. We don't like the color of our hair, we dye it a different color. Our faces start breaking out, we put on a pound of makeup to hide it for a day. Our noses are too big or small, we go under the knife to get it re-sized like it's a dress that needs to be altered.
People make fun of us for any reason whether it's our hair, stomach, boobs, butt, you name it. We get called "bubble butt" or "pretzel legs." Those words kill our self-confidence and were made to believe that what we are isn't good enough and that we have to change ourselves. Actions may speak louder than words but words can hurt just as hard as actions. We lose our self-respect because we want to blend into a group of friends. Girls forget their value when trying to get guys to think of them has cute and sexy as some form of approval.
Society has made us believe we have to be a copy of this imaginary image. There's a new thing that makes the world go crazy and forces people to take exaggerating and dangerous measures to fit that picture. Being skinny used to be the necessity people thought they needed to be. Girls going on diets, over exerting their body through hours on the treadmill. They were tighter clothes to show off that they actually have skinny bodies with everything hanging out.
Then the focus went to boobs. We have no control over that but we try to. You're either in the "Itty Bitty Committee" or "Massive Melons". We used to put toilet paper in our bras as kids but now as women, we stuff them with bags of silicon to make them bigger. People with larger ones have the same problem. They feel like people are distracted by their breasts and assume that their asking for it. They try to cover up everything and feel like you need to cover their bodies in order to be respected.
Now it's about having the biggest butt and toned stomach, with abs included. Strapping on tighter jeans to show proof of curves. Having surgery to get injections into butt to make them bigger and toner. There's a Snapchat account I follow of this plastic surgeon in Miami. He Snapchats during all his surgeries of tummy tucks, breast implants, and butt lifts.
As women, we take pride in the way that we look but we forget that the only person's approval that matters is our own. If you don't love or respect yourself then how are you gonna care about other people. Be happy with the person you've become and are becoming. You may be still maturing or at the end of puberty, you are beautiful no matter what anyone says. And if they say something, just shake it off like Taylor Swift. She may seem perfect but even she has insecurities. Beyonce started a movement based on appreciating your body and celebrating inner and outer beauty. Instead of giving into the names and doubts, celebrate your body for what it is. Embrace the parts of your body and don't be afraid to show it. Think about when you have a daughter, you would want her to love her body and not want to change who they are based on what people believe is beautiful.
We always seem to look at the negative instead of the positive. Friends will tell us how we're beautiful for what we have. Instead of disagreeing with them, say thank you. People see you as a beautiful and gorgeous human being and never forget that. So go love your face, your hair, your size, your legs, your curves. Go into the world and love yourself.
