We've all been there: there are only a few hours left until you're leaving for a beach day with friends, and you're standing in the mirror examining yourself in a new bathing suit. All of your self-doubts arises that had been hiding beneath cozy scarves and oversized sweaters for the winter, and you run through every regret of your recent indulgences. And I'll just stop right there. You know the rest. Well, if you can relate to that scenario, this article's for you.
There's nothing worse than the sinking feeling of self-doubt creeping its way into your mind midday, and ruining a beautifully sunny afternoon. So, this year, I've decided I'm done with it. Done with the doubt, nervousness, and shame. All bodies are beautiful, and though it may not be as simple as it sounds,
I'm making an effort to make this summer guilt-free, and love myself no matter what size swimsuit I'm wearing.
Only listen to your voice when you look in the mirror.
When looking in the mirror, who's talking back at you? Is it your friends, models from magazines, the 'perfect' Instagram blogger? Often times, it's anyone but yourself, which is the most important voice after all. Only worry about what you think when you see your reflection. If you think you look good but aren't sure if other people will agree, say "screw them" and wear it with confidence. Most people are too busy thinking about themselves to notice if your jeans are a little tight anyway. And even if they are, you look good if you feel good.
Another thing I've struggled with in the summer is always feeling like I have to wear a skimpy bikini to fit in. But not anymore, I'm rocking a cute one piece this summer, and I couldn't be more excited to hit the beach.
You don't have to show a lot of skin to feel sexy.
Even if you're the only one in your group who's a bit more covered up, it doesn't mean you're a prude or are uncomfortable with your body. Once I finally stopped worrying about how I looked with 3/4 of my skin bare and focused on finding swimsuits and summer outfits that I really liked, I noticed how much I loved dressing for the body and style I felt comfortable in, not what some magazine said was the trendiest skimpy bikini this year.
And if you feel confident and beautiful in a tiny swimsuit, go for it. The important thing is that you're happy in what you're wearing, and are more focused on making memories than making sure you don't accidentally flash the whole beach.
After finally embracing the fact that I felt more comfortable running in a cute one piece, I was able to truly find my unique style. Though it may be a bit more conservative than some people's summer outfits, I love the clothes I wear and have no doubts about enjoying my time by the water. It's important to remember that:
You are not defined by someone else's definition of beauty.
While it's great to follow the current style and makeup trends, basing your sense of beauty and self-worth on them is destructive and unfair to yourself. If crop tops are "in" and you don't like to show your stomach, or you don't think you look good in the newest maxi skirt, don't feel like you have to wear one. Just because people you know are rocking a certain trend, doesn't mean you have to jump on board.
It's nobody's business but your own what you do with your body, so you shouldn't let anyone else's idea of what looks good on them dictate what you think looks good on you. You do you and don't let anyone or anything tell you otherwise.
If you're still struggling with feeling like you're ready to take on the summer, try pampering yourself with a little extra self-care ritual, like exfoliating your legs or doing a DIY face mask. That way you'll get a jump start on your summer glow, and be ready to be your most confident self.
Remember, nobody can take away your joy if you're confident in yourself and your beauty. This summer will be amazing because you will be full of self-assured happiness, and no one can stop you from having the time of your life.
