What Is Love?

What Is Love?

Well, it is why we are here.
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As I sit angrily in my bed as the clock reaches midnight, the song "What is Love" rambles through my head. I feel too often our society that we are blessed to live in, forgets what the purpose is: to love. We are called to do this simple task but it seems to be a not so easy task with everyone we meet.

There are many different forms of love, to name a few: there is love of oneself, love of neighbor and even romantic love. What has been really bothering me, however, has been love of neighbor. Often times these four little letters l-o-v-e are mistaken for four different letters l-u-s-t. To truly love is to be selfless and to lust is to be selfish. This distinct difference is what drives our society apart, our houses and our so called friendships.

When you’re selfless in your friendships, you want what is best for that person. Whether motivating them in doing their work or calling them out when they messed up. Messing up is normal. It is in our innate humanity to mess up, if we didn’t mess up, life would not be interesting. When someone truly loves you, they will point it out. Not because they are judging you or mean, but because they realize the importance of your growth as a human being.

If you ignore someone's genuine concern or acting out of sheer personal desire, that is lust. Lust in and of itself is selfish and purely focused on your individual desires, clearly disregarding those around you. Sometimes what you want as an individual is not what is best for you. Yeah, I want to eat four dozen chocolate chip cookies but that's probably not what's best for me. A good friend, out of love, would hold me accountable and remind me that eating four dozen cookies is not good.

Just imagine a world where there is no accountability. Where there are no repercussions for ones actions. That world would be run to the ground quickly and it would be hard to find true happiness. When people close to you hold you accountable, they do it out of love. They want you to be the best person you can be and sometimes a little tough love is what is best.

This accountability thing should be happening on a daily basis. This does not just apply to love of one's neighbor but in every little tiny crevice of one's life. To be happy, and I mean truly happy, we are called to love. If that means that accountability for your actions comes in and dampers what you think you want, well, so be it.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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To The Friend Who Never Left, Even During The Darkest Times

I hope I can repay you someday for all that you have done for me.

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Dear best friend,

I've been meaning to write this for such a long time, but so many things happened in a very short span of time. College seized all my energy quicker than I expected.

There is just one thing I need to clarify: This isn't a letter requiring a response from you, but I nonetheless want you to keep and remember this forever.

I can't possibly compose all my gratitude to you in a single letter, but I will try.

On February 7, something tragic happened. I lost someone who meant so much to me. He was an incredible teacher, father-figure and inspiration to many, and I was one of the few lucky ones blessed to be taught and mentored by such a wonderful man.

That evening, when the nurse told me he passed away, I immediately subsided. You saw how I collapsed, and I didn't think it was possible for me to get back up. But somehow, a few hours later, you saved me. I was smiling and undergoing a rigorous interview which, hours ago, I was about to cancel — but I ended up doing it and I did so well, all thanks to you.

I don't think you know how much you saved me that day. I'm not just talking about the interview. I was a huge physical and emotional mess that evening. At that point, I felt like I had lost a big part of my sanity, but with your graciousness, I resurfaced.

With your help, I got a grip on myself.

With your help, I was able to focus and restore tranquility to my soul.

With your help, I made it home safely.

This just goes to show what an incredible person you are. Your small acts of kindness that day had a big impact on me. You did the impossible. I may have lost a lot that day, but the compassion and encouragement you bestowed upon me was unforgettable.

Thank you so much. I hope I can repay you someday for all that you have done for me.

You are such a great person.

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