When You Find Your Person, The Mushy Love Songs Make Sense

When You Find Your Person, The Mushy Love Songs Make Sense

"Accidentally in Love" is actually true.


Breakups are a simple part of life, but moving on and finding someone new can be both an exciting and terrifying experience. Exciting in the essence of meeting someone new, growing, falling in love, and creating all kinds of new memories, but terrifying in the essence that you could get hurt again, and be wasting time. But, when you meet the right kind of person, the fear dissipates and vanishes; never be afraid to fall again for someone new.

When you move on from a serious relationship, engagement, or similar, it can be extremely stressful, painful, heartbreaking. Personally, after my ex-fiance and I split, I never thought I would be able to find another person like her. I wouldn't be capable of truly loving another person. I would just tolerate someone's company for a while, but never really open up to them. Always too afraid to actually be open, or never comfortable enough with someone to be vulnerable.

It becomes a struggle sometimes to heal. To repair and rebuild all the pieces that were left behind, and return to being the person you used to be after it all. Rediscovering and reconnecting with oneself is both liberating and heartbreaking.

But all of that can change in a single moment. Bumping into each other in public, having a class together, or even letting your dog out the front door to your house for some reason as opposed to the back, and having him run right up to her, and almost knocking her to the ground. Dogs do know best.

That's exactly how my girlfriend and I met. My dog for some reason wanted to be let out the front door, as opposed to the back door to the backyard. He ran away and ran right to her out of all the people in her group. He almost knocked her down and kept wagging his tail and trying to be pet by her.

That was the moment all the songs began to make sense again. It was one of those "This Magic Moment" moments. She looked up to me and smiled, and asked if he was my dog. I told her, yes and we started talking. She asked if I had any plans for the evening, and I told her no. She asked me out to a party, and I went along. After the party, we all went to get food, and we found a stray cat. She and I cared for it and took care of it.

We began talking after that, getting to know each other, but I never thought I had a chance. "Why would a beautiful blonde girl want anything to do with a tattooed greaser like me?" was something I asked myself regularly. As fate would have it, she felt the same way. She thought I was out of her league. But, that didn't stop either of us from shooting our shot. After multiple dates and nights out, we made it official.

When the songs begin to make sense again, you won't be scared to become vulnerable. A simple love song will come on, you'll begin smiling, and you'll realize you have fallen for them completely. Let them spark those feelings again, and let the fire run wild. You will be able to open yourself completely to them. You understand that they could hurt you like those in the past have, but you know very well that they won't. Even if they did, it would be worth the pain.

Don't be afraid to fall in love when the songs make sense again.

"When she begins to rock, honey, I begin to roll."

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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There's Nothing Wrong With Meeting The Love Of Your Life On A Dating Site

In such a tech-savvy world, why are we so afraid to admit that we found love online?


Growing up watching rom-coms like "When Harry Met Sally" and "Notting Hill," I've always been a bit of a romantic. I can't count the number of times I've constructed in my mind a completely unrealistic meet-cute where I would find the love of my life. I mean, who doesn't want their own fairy tale romance?

But in this age of social media and dating apps, the chances of accidentally bumping into your soulmate is slim to none. Dating apps like Bumble and Tinder are becoming ever so popular, with more and more individuals meeting their significant other online. So why is it that in such a tech-savvy society, people are still afraid to admit that they found love online?

I blame romantic comedies. Even though many romantic comedies are focused on being "realistic," the chances of me meeting the LOML at a carnival when he decides to climb up the Ferris wheel to talk to me (*cough* "The Notebook" *cough*) are highly unlikely. We've become so fixated on the idea of this perfect relationship that it becomes almost inferior to meet someone through a dating app.

But it's time the stigma ended. Who cares where you met your significant other? Sure, maybe you originally swiped right on Tinder with the sole intention of hooking up, but life happens.

It shouldn't matter that you didn't meet in some crazy, over-the-top fashion.

And sure, there's nothing wrong in hoping for a romantic comedy worthy meet-cute, but you shouldn't let modern cinema dictate your relationship. There's no shame in saying that you met your boyfriend or girlfriend on a dating app. I mean, what are these apps meant for? Meeting online doesn't in any way take away from the legitimacy of one's relationship. So instead of focusing on these so-called perfect moments, let's focus on building perfect relationships because life isn't always a movie.

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