Every day, we see couples walking hand in hand, out at a bar, or in a restaurant. After being in a relationship for a little over a year, seeing these couples used to make me feel dismal. They made me want to feel the way I once felt when I was in a relationship. I used to miss the feeling of having someone always there to talk to and to know I was appreciated. But all good things come to an end, right?
I'm not going to say I'm as single as it gets, but sometimes it feels that way. At first it's rough getting into the motions of not depending on the other person, but you learn to enjoy it. Like anything, time heals wounds and I moved on, living my life and finding out that being single was one of the best things that could've happened to me.
Us single people have those moments where we think to ourselves, "I'm going to be single forever" or "No one will ever love me". First off, invest in a body pillow because it has been here for me for the past year. And second, stop talking nonsense. You won't be single forever. There's someone out there for you, you just haven't found them yet.
Don't dwell on the fact that you don't have a significant other; instead think of all the reasons why you love being single.
You have freedom. You aren't tied down, so you can do whatever you want whenever you want without second guessing yourself. Don't live by the rules. Make them up as you go. There's no right way to live life so live it up to the fullest.
You're independent. You don't need another person to make you happy. You're confident in yourself because you can stand on your own. You've coped with the good and the bad and have gotten through it all. You know who you are and what you want. No one can stand in your way.
You always have your friends. When is there a time where you and your pals have a bad time? Never! You have so much more time to spend with them. They're always going to be there for you and you build stronger bonds with them.
You have more 'me' time. More time by yourself means more time to find yourself. Like I've said before, take time to be selfish and do those things that make you happy. Reconnect with your inner spirit and make your own happiness.
You don't have to worry about fighting over the little things. So you didn't do the dishes for a few days or you forgot to do that one thing you've been putting off. It's okay. You won't have as much stress upon yourself because those little things won't be blown out of proportion. You will get them done.
You have the opportunity to meet new people and flirt a bit. As the saying goes: "single and ready to mingle." Go out and meet all different kinds of people. There are so many possibilities, so go ahead and explore. Give it a try, because you've got nothing to lose. Who knows, someone might surprise you when you least expect it.
You can get your priorities straight. You have the ability to focus on your career, family, friends, and future goals. Take time to buckle down and figure these things out to make you succeed.
The word single is just a status that we declare ourselves by, and it doesn't mean we are alone or sad. Being single is the time to immerse yourself in the world. Go backpacking, try new things, go on dates, stay up ridiculously late on the weekends, and never look back. Don't worry about putting your life on a timeline because the right person will come along when the time is right. Until then, enjoy being single, enjoy being carefree, and enjoy life. Learn to be your own hero and love yourself.
