Have you ever just sat down and thought about what you are doing and why? Is love an actual thing? Or is it just something us humans hold on to, to give us a sense of meaning? Is it really love or is it lust, the "want" for our so called significant other? Sit back and think about a time you were single or if you are now, think "Do I really want the man/woman or do I just want them physically?" Many teens now-a-days are confused with these two "L" words.

Back in high school, you would see the big jock, who was number one on the football team and loved by all. Every girl was deeply in love with him, and he was perfect! His jaw line, his muscles, his athleticism and his fame. To date or be seen with that man, you had to be number one as well. For us guys, it was that beautiful cheerleader with all the right curves, captain of the squad and who threw all the big parties. You just had to be with her to be accepted. You would love these two future high school prom queen and king until you died, or so you always thought.

Well sorry to all you kids out there that think this because you're wrong. That is very much so lust. You want that fame; you want to be on top and you won't settle for less! Not everyone can be perfect. Actually to upset many, no one is perfect. It's how you accept your own well-being and how you see yourself in the mirror. You can be happy with your weight, smile, looks and be confident or you can be depressed every time you see yourself because it's not what you want to be. You want to see yourself like the models in big time magazines and movies. However, that is all Photoshop and physically impossible to achieve.

Society has changed drastically over time. Lust was very small and love was huge. Divorce wasn't as popular in the past, love was real love! But now, all we see is lust in marriages and after a few years things get boring and they look for another tool to play with in the shed. Statistics show that in America, 50 percent of first time marriages end in divorce. A 50/50. A flip of a coin is the same as your marriage here in America, statistically. That is awful!

However, society is changing also for the better. Back then we told our daughters to find a wealthy man who can support you and we told our sons to find a woman that can cook and clean. Today, though we are now more independent. We tell sons and daughters to go to school and get good grades, to become educated, to go to college and get an enjoyable, well paying job. We have evolved over time and we are trying to stop the gender based thoughts of a husband being the bread winner and the wife being the stay at home mom. This also, in turn, is pushing the marriage age from marrying out of high school to waiting till after college when most have received much more wisdom then they had in high school. In result, the new generations are waiting longer for marriages instead of graduating high school and marrying the top of the class for lust. We attend college in the search of love and wisdom.

We already have the money and by the time we leave college, most of us can accept our own appearance, so we no longer look for the jocks. We look for the nice guy who we look to love and with whom we want to create a family. If there is anything you learn, let it please be to not marry someone based on first sight or on the first date. Marry after a few years. Move in with your person and understand each other. Fight! See each other at the best and the worst. That should cancel out your lust factor and you will really start to believe in love. If after all the lust is over, you don't feel right, leave because that is telling you that you are in it for the physical not the emotional parts. Never cheat because you love your wife so much but have lust for another because you are then further telling yourself a lie to be able to sleep at night. Confront your problems head on and talk things out. If the divorce is inevitable, recognize your mistakes and deal with them, rather than continuously running, which many do. Many Americans let there marriage fall apart but don't call it off officially, in turn, hurting their kids minds throughout the process. Every cause has an effect and every effect can hurt another that isn't even fully involved. Think about your actions before you commit them and think about long term not short term. Usually the short term love is actually lust just being disguised.