We All Love In Different Ways And Sometimes That Hurts Us

We All Love In Different Ways And Sometimes That Hurts Us

"Stop! In the name of love..."


Whether you are in a relationship or not, it is important to understand the concept of love and how everyone loves differently. We live in a world now where accepting on who we love and how we love is becoming less of a social issue. But it is still an issue.

We were all raised differently and express ourselves to that manner and when that happens there is some form of miscommunication. Some people may know about the "5 Love Languages", I honestly did not know about it until this passing month. For those who do not know, it is focusing on the positive way that we love someone. There is no "correct" language out of the 5. It is more about how do you love and find out how your partner loves and once those are announced it will be easier for y'all to communicate and actually do what the other person would like in the relationship.

The 5 love languages are: "Words of Affirmation", "Acts of Service", "Quality Time", "Receiving Gifts", and "Physical Touch". If you take the quiz here it will ask you some questions and tally out your results as to which language best suits you. This would completely explain why you may argue with your partner about them acting a certain way. As well as it may be a reason that you noticed that you act a certain way.

For me personally, my love language is "Words of Affirmation" which I find hilarious since I am an English major. Anyways, then my bottom one was "Physical Touch". So for me, I enjoy positive statements, words of appreciation, being told that I made someone proud. That lights up my spirits all the time. Compared to hand-holding, touching of the shoulder, hugging all the time. It is not exactly my cup of tea because it is not my love language. The physical touch will not equal out to me the same way as words would. Make sense?

If we don't acknowledge our own love language and we don't recognize our partner's, that is when the collision will hit. I like to watch Jay Shetty videos where he completely explains things like this all the time. He was a monk for 3 years so he had gained a lot of wisdom that I am ready to take on into my own life.

The relationship falls and burn because we are not listening to each other. We are so busy trying to put out our own opinions. As a society, we are "hearing" what others are saying, but we are not "listening" to what others are trying to tell us. By listening, we are growing our empathetic skills, we are becoming more nurturing.

So whether you are in a relationship or not, this all works for you. Love language can be dealt with a friend, a family member, even a pet. (yes the dogs need some love too!) In order for us to heal our world, I think one of our biggest struggles is not speaking the other person's language.

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10 Bible Verses for Self Esteem

Sometimes you need to search for inner strength and find your own self worth.

We all get those days that we just don't feel good enough for anything. Everything is going wrong. For me, I go to the bible to read the words of God. His personal dialog for us is filled with encouragement, hope, and lessons we can learn from. Here are my top ten verses that are uplifting and impacting when at the lowest of lows:

1. Philippians 4:13:

I can do all things in Him who strengthens me.

2. Psalm 46:5

God is within her, she will not fall.

3. Proverbs 31:25

She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

4. Psalm 28:76

The Lord is my strength and my shield.

5. 1 Corinthians 25:10

By the grace of God, I am what I am.

6. Romans 5:8

I loved you at your darkest.

7. Psalm 62:5-6

Only God gives inward peace, and I depend on Him. God alone is the mighty rock that keeps me safe, and he is the fortress where I feel secure.

8. 2 Timothy 1:7

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.

9. 1 Peter 2:9

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

10. 2 Chronicles 20:15

The battle is not ours, but God's.

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To The Girl Who Wants A Change

First of all, you're beautiful and girl, I relate.


Every person on this planet has thought about what they would do if they could change something about their appearance. It may just be me, but there seems to be this stage of depression where you look yourself in the mirror and don't want to be you. You want that bright colored hair if yours is dark. You want your nails done and your makeup on point. You want to have the body type and looks to wear that one outfit you've had your eye on but just can't pull off.

You become almost overconcerned and overly-conscious about how people see you and how your image is projected upon the world.

Honestly, when you get to this point, there's really no going back. Some people are very skeptical of changing things when in this stage of itching for something new. They believe that as soon as it's done that you're going to regret what you've done and now you're gonna hate yourself even more.

My advice is that if this action that you want to do isn't going to hurt you or anyone else, why not? Put some thought into what you're doing and then go for it. Color your hair purple, make your nails into those claws you've loved for so long. Get a tattoo. Although, you might want to think absolutely thoroughly on that last one.

It sucks to live in a society where you feel like you're constantly being scrutinized and just aren't able to do the things you want to. Maybe you're too scared of the outcome. A little nervous. Maybe you grew up with people telling you to stay natural and not do that thing that you want because your body is a temple and you shouldn't disgrace it.

Even temples have murals, sweetheart.

Nobody can tell you how to live. No one can tell you how to look. Never be afraid of change just because someone else wants you to be. Never be afraid to express yourself because people have silenced your voice. Speak loud, proud, and often and you'll be just fine.

And hey, even if you do get your nails done a new way, get your hair dyed or anything else, that isn't the end. You don't have to stick with it if you don't like it. Just find something you do like, something that makes you happy, and always pursue it.

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