Love Isn't Always 50/50..

Love Isn't Always 50/50..

Surround yourself with people who balance you, not people who drain you.

The most important piece of advice my Papa ever gave me, was that love isn't always 50/50.

"Some days your partner will only give 10, so you'll give 90. And you know that on the days you only give 10, your partner will give 90."

It seems so simple, but it couldn't be more true. Some days, we just don't have it. Maybe everything that could go wrong, did. Bad days happen, and we don't always have the energy to put forth the effort into our relationship.

That's life.

What makes your partner that, "perfect match" is when they give the 90 to make up for your 10, without hesitation.

If you find yourself constantly giving a bulk of the effort, most of the time that means you're not in the right relationship. Your balance is out there. The man, or woman, that will take care of you on your bad days, without hesitation, is out there.

Don't settle for someone who you don't have balance with. If you're constantly giving 90, after a while, you're going to get tired. You're only human. And that's okay.

It's okay to recognize that you deserve better.

This goes for friendships as much as relationships. If you're constantly putting in the effort in your friendships, it might be time to say 'see-ya.'

Surround yourself with people who balance you, not people who drain you.

My dad gave me this advice when I was 16, it only took me seven years to fully understand it. I can tell you from personal experience, once you figure this out,

the happier you will be.

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I'd Give Up The Idea Of Perfection Any Day To Be With My Imperfect Boyfriend

You are exactly who I need in my life, and I can only hope that I am half of that for you.

To My Imperfect Boyfriend,

You’re far from perfect. Sometimes, you do things that drive me absolutely insane and frustrate me to no end. You make mistakes—a lot of them.

Growing up, we all had this idea in our heads of who we wanted to be with. Our own idea of a “perfect” person: the perfect person we would wake up next to, with the perfect sunrise hitting our perfect faces, cook a perfect gourmet breakfast within our perfect home on a perfect beach.

The more time I spend with you, the more I realize a few things: how completely unrealistic it is to be with a perfect person, and that I would give up the idea of “perfection” any day to be with you.

You’re my best friend, always by my side supporting me through all my crazy ideas, and doing everything you can to make sure I know how much you love me. You’re there for me when I need you, and you know exactly what kind of stupid things to say to make me smile, even if I’m in an impossibly bad mood—even if you caused it.

When it comes to me, you are completely selfless, treating me like I’m the only thing in your life that matters. Your devotion to me is more than admirable. You’re my security and my sanity— even though you’re not always sane yourself, we keep each other sane. Perhaps one of my favorite things about you is your determination to make me happier than I’ve ever been. Even when you don’t know how to be the best for me, you keep trying until you do. I’ve never met someone who has tried harder for anything else.

You’ve taught me how to see imperfection as the most beautiful thing there is.

I don’t want you to be perfect. I want you to have all your quirks, all your tendencies, all your attributes: all the things that make you perfectly imperfect. The issue with perfection is that there is no room for growth, and this whole relationship is about learning from each other and growing together.

You know what the best part is?

I’m not perfect either.

I don’t expect you to see me as perfect. Sometimes, I do things that drive you absolutely insane—and frustrate you to no end. I make mistakes—a lot of them.

But you love me for who I am, and you are more than willing to share this journey of life with me, despite potential bumps along the way. I see you as a person I can grow with, have adventures with, and face life’s many challenges with forever.

It’s funny; I guess all your imperfections make you perfect to me. You are exactly who I need in my life, and I can only hope that I am half of that for you.

Love always,

Your Imperfect Girlfriend

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12 Unexpected Perks Of Being Best Friends With A Guy Before You Date

Dating becomes a whole lot simpler.

Dating can be really rough sometimes. It's not always easy to find your person in the world...unless your person was already right in front of your face the whole time. There's nothing I love about my relationship more than the fact that my boyfriend was genuinely my best friend before he was anything else. Here are just some of the perks of being best friends before you date.

1. You already know each other's quirks and habits

Like the fact that he snores, is awful at responding while playing video games, gets distracted easily and is all-around a slightly awkward human.

2. As well as their likes and dislikes.

Ordering food for him from just about anywhere is a breeze.

3. And you already know what they're like in relationships.

You've watched one another date enough to know exactly what they're like when they're dating someone. You also know what drives them crazy in relationships, which helps avoid fights.

4. Meeting the family is a walk in the park.

Chances are either you've already met them or you've heard enough about them to make things much smoother.

5. You have common interests and likes.

You'll likely never hear us argue over where to eat or what music to listen to, I can promise you that.

6. You don't get tired of seeing them.

Sure, they might still get on your nerves, but that doesn't change the fact you love spending time together.

7. Comfortable silences.

We can sit on the couch playing on our phones or doing our own thing and still be content.

8. Things are never awkward between you.

You don't care if I pick up tampons while we're out, do you?

9. No conversations are off limits.

Not even bowel movements.

10. You have fun together easily.

They can make the most boring things more interesting. Your sides have actually hurt from laughing so much with them.

11. No ones shocked when you get together.

When I told my other friends who I was dating literally no one was surprised at all.

12. Things are natural between you.

Being with my boyfriend is easier than it's ever been with anyone else before. We've genuinely cared about each other for so long and have been so close for years that dating just works. Nothing has changed between us; we're still best friends, just best friends that happen to be together.

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