How do you know you are feeling either one of those emotions? What separates the crush from falling in love? I know the love a child has for their parents, their siblings, their friends--but romantically I am not sure. And I do not think people know either. People confuse emotions from time to time and the most known ones such as love are usually not real. We say it so often that it starts to lose what its suppose to be if not without any true feeling behind it. Love is a strong emotion to feel for someone who is very important romantically or platonic. It is complex and can be hard to understand, but it is easy to mistake it for infatuation.
From my understanding, love is a warm feeling. A strong emotion you feel for a person in your life that you'd want to see happy. Or be the one to make them happy for the rest of their days. It brings people together in the oddest of ways and can be the breaking point such as murder or the lovely restraining order. Infatuation, on the other hand, is fleeting and does not last very long since the emotions were only strong for a moment. I have also seen relationships come and go over ridiculous reasons such as:
"Oh I saw what she really looked like."
"She's so clingy"
"He spends more time with his friends than me."
"Always with the excuses."
"He's so dismissive about everything! He doesn't even care!"
"Oh! I know she is cheating on me with that guy because she is always running off to go see him."
Did you not THINK of what you were getting into when you said "Oh that's bae" or "she is wifey" ? Or is thinking with your privates a new trend here because if so, I'll make a mental note to study later. My point is that people are rushing head first into relationships without thinking about what they feel. Yes, its understandable that people do get caught in the moment and believe that feelings will come later as the relationship progresses, but what if they don’t? A woman could find out that the man she has been seeing is talking to another woman and confront him about, when the relationship between this couple is pure sex and she’ll be quick to assume that rush of anger and jealousy is the growing affection, or better yet the love, she feels for him. However, it is not love.
Young adults can believe that they are in love, but majority of the time they are fishing for feelings that were never there. Why? Not everyone can stand their own silence forever and dislike that they are lonely. We are social beings by nature so seeking companionship is what is expected of us. However, the ways we go about doing so will not always be genuine. It can be out of selfish need and satisfaction. Although once that person walks away, we would do almost anything to find a reason to make them stay. Even if we have to pretend to feel something that only lasted for a moment. It is not a new, but it is not old. People will continuously go through this cycle until they come to a self-realization about what they want and what exactly are they looking for in a relationship.
But for now, take a deep breath and ask yourself one simple question.
"Do I really love this person?"
