A topic like this has been constantly recurring in my mind even before I stepped foot on a college campus. I'd always thought the dating pool in my town was small when I was younger, and hoped there would be an ocean of options for me when I finally got to college. I was certain I'd find the person I'd be with for the rest of my life here, and that I'd get to live one of those corny rom-com movies I had lowkey always dreamed of.
Whether you have or haven't dated, you'll notice that a lot of people around you may be in relationships, supposedly living their "best lives." You often wonder, "When will it happen to me?"
The problem with that is you think you're unhappy being alone, but you really just like the idea of someone to share something with. It sounds great, don't get me wrong. But you have to stop yourself and ask, "Is this what I need for me, at this very moment?"
College should be a place where you get to find yourself.
It's a place to realize what you like and dislike. How to advance into the next stage. It's that big push we need to shove us directly into adulthood.
But when you feel this sudden urge to be with someone immediately, it's like your biological clock is ticking. It's like everyone will be paired up after the four years and you'll have no one to match up with. I get that. But if you rush into a relationship only to be with someone, you might end up in something that isn't right for you, or potentially even unhealthy for you.
The fact of the matter may be, you just might not be ready for a relationship at this point in time, and that's okay. You should discover yourself, and love yourself through these trying times.
Sometimes being alone is better than being with someone else, even if everyone else around you is boo'd up. Don't feel like you absolutely have to experience all the crazy turns and curves of being in a relationship right now. I promise you'll be fine, and when you're ready, you'll definitely know.
