I think it's everyone's fear that they will get cheated on by their partner when in a relationship. Reality is, our phones and online lives are a huge impact on the relations we have in the real world. Searching through likes on Instagram, stalking favorites on tweets and checking past interactions on Twitter have become our tools for finding out the truth. As a girl who is paranoid about things in general the idea of being cheated on is terrifying, and as social media grows and different ways of reaching out to other people becomes easier. The threat of a third party impeding the growth of a healthy relationship causes stress on everyone in the relationship and causes behavior that is unhealthy. Waking up at three in the morning creating theories in your head because he favorited some girls tweet four hours ago, but couldn't send you a goodnight text. Believing that every girl he snaps he's also having sex with ( a majority of the time he isn't) and you wonder who that girl in the background of his Snapchat story is. I see people all the time, who find it necessary to post pictures of their relationship trying to verify the love that they have. And I can't even complain because I do all of these all the time.
This is what media has conditioned us to do to prove that we are in stable and worthwhile relationships, when in reality we don't trust our partner from going to the store by themselves. So the challenge everyday is to overcome the skepticism we have in a relationship. Being with someone requires you to trust them, whether your partner is 2 miles away or 50 miles away. I never thought I would get hurt by someone I loved but I did, and it's been a long long long long road to trust them again. I still to this day feel the need to look through their phone in order to figure out what their doing without me. Yes, that sounds crazy mostly because it is.When did trust stop and love wasn't enough anymore? When did we stop having real honest relationships? When did we replace them with ones that survived on whether or not he/she liked someone's selfie?
Stop letting DMs and favorites dictate how happy you are with someone. If you love them, then you should trust them. Trust comes from your heart, not your phone
