When you're in a relationship you may feel like you have to do everything for the other person. You feel that in order to show them your love, you must drop everything for them. If they need you at 2 in the morning, you will rush to go right over there. If you are supposed to go out with friends and your partner is having a bad day, you cancel your plans with your friends. You think, hey, my friends will always be there for me, it will be fine if I cancel. I mean my significant other needs me more than my friends. Oh my mom wants to have dinner…. that will be fun, oh but I shouldn’t because my significant other would want me to have dinner with them… Let’s face it: bargaining becomes your best friend.
You do absolutely anything and everything for your significant other. It may sound crazy, but you're so in love with your partner that you want to show them anyway possible. You think becoming clingy and up his ass will make him appreciate you and love you even more. Well stop right there, because what you’re doing is only hurting yourself and him. For one, you’re suffocating the poor fellow and he needs space, just as much as you do. Do you remember how much you loved going out with friends, not worried about where your significant other was or what they were doing? Remember when you were a part of a club that you loved so much, but it took too much time away from being with your significant other so you quit? You stopped doing the things that you once loved because you think that your partner is the only thing you should be loving. But you’re wrong. You're losing yourself in the process of loving him.
You love your partner so much that you're forgetting who you were, what made your partner love you from the beginning. Remember when you did all that stuff before them and when you met them, you did all those things that made you, you. That's what your partner liked, they liked how spontaneous and adventurous you were. Your partner knows you love them and that's why they wouldn't want you to give up things for them.
You believe that love is about giving up everything that you love and honestly that's not love, that's lust. If your partner loves you, they will love those things about you. They will want you to go out and be with friends because they trust you. Maybe you have an idea, from your past, that your partner will stop loving you if you don't suffocate them, if you aren't around them 24/7. But that past relationship was a no-go from the start. Where you are now, you must remember where you started. If you loved working out before you met them, then you should sill pursue working-out. If you loved reading books before you met them, then you should still read books. The person that you were before you met them is the person that they want you to be. Don’t stop everything because you think you’ll lose them if you don’t. That’s just ridiculous because they fell in love with you for the things that make you, you. You're only hurting yourself when you stop doing the things you loved to do. It’s okay to make them a priority, but you also have to make yourself a priority as well. It’s okay to love hard, that's a beautiful thing, but you can’t lose yourself while loving someone else.
