This is a very touchy subject, but a good friend of mine suggested that I write about it....so here it goes. Why is it so hard to find someone to be in a relationship with? Why do people feel the need to jump from one person to another as opposed to just settling down? A lot of relationships don't last that long because someone always leaves the other behind. I have some thoughts about this particular subject, and I have a theory. I like to call my theory F.O.B.O.
So what is F.O.B.O? It stands for Fear Of a Better Option. Look down right now. What's in your lap? More than likely it's your phone. Now there's a great chance you have some sort of dating app on there; an app that basically makes it possible to be with tons of people at the touch of your finger tip. No one wants to settle down because what if something better comes along. What if there's someone hotter or smarter that we could possible be with? Today, people can see all of the options they have laid out for them and swipe right or left. This makes people feel as if they have an unlimited amount of options, and one person is better than the next. People are so scared of settling that they just don't commit at all anymore. Commitment seems like a trap to a lot of people, which could not be further from the truth.
The problem with people who suffer from F.O.B.O is that once they exhaust the list, they will end up alone. Let me tell you a secret. There will ALWAYS be someone who seems as if they are "better" than the person you are currently with. There will always be someone smarter and prettier, but they might not make you laugh. They may not appreciate you, or they may not be genuine. Not everyone is going to stay at home, eagerly waiting for your arrival, and when they see you after a long day, their eyes light up. Sure, you can waste time going from person to person, but that's exactly what it is; a waste of time. Someone with F.O.B.O will never be satisfied, and that's a pretty sad fact. Don't search for perfection because we're all humans, and there's no such thing as perfect. Find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Find someone that you want to sit on the front pouch with when you're eighty. Put aside your fears and open your heart. Enjoy every moment you spend with them because we only have so many of those. As the movie, Hitch, quotes very well, "Life is not measured by the breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away. Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love."
