Look ladies, this is not going to be an article about tips on how to make it better. This is not an article about why it is worth it, how it will make your relationship stronger, or romantically depressing quotes to try and make you feel better. Yes, those are all fantastic articles, but are those the articles that you really want? More things that TRY to make you feel better? How about something a little more relatable and less dreamy? Personally, I feel best when I rant, so here is some truth on why long distance relationships suck.
One of the absolute worst things about long-distance relationships is that other people don’t have long distance relationships.
Wait, June, how does this relate to my long distance relationship? It relates because at first you think their relationships are cute and you think about how cute yours is too, but then weeks and months go by and that appreciation that you once had towards their relationships turns to jealousy. Sure you are happy for them and their love and all that great stuff, but not nearly as happy as you would be if you had your boo-thing next to you, too. You cannot help it, really. People walking arm and arm at night back to the dorm, innocent little goodbye hugs, or couples holding hands in he movie all make you unhappy. They are not trying to make you upset, but you despise them anyways.
Time zones.
I actually think Satan himself created time zones to make long distance relationships harder. Yes, I realize the sun is in different places of the world at different times and all that science, but really being 14 hours ahead or behind your significant other is not easy or fun.
Waiting is hard.
Some days go really fast and some days go really slow. You probably have the date you get to see them again marked on a calendar and circled many times. Sometimes you are surprised that it has already been a month and sometimes you are surprised it has only been a month. Waiting is painful and truly one of the worst things about a long distance relationship.
New memories.
You wish they could be apart of the memories you are making without them. Life continues without them with you and you will frequently finding yourself having a lot of fun then quickly wishing that they were there to enjoy it as well. Not having your best friend with you to join in on the new jokes you are making and memories that you are creating really sucks. (BUT MAKE THEM ANYWAYS.)
Video chat.
Video chat is the best thing and the worst thing. Sometimes it works great and other times, when you really want it to work, it doesn’t work at all. I live in China, where, sometimes, my VPN allows me to have contact and somedays it just likes to watch me pull my hair out. It makes video chat nearly impossible somedays. I realize some long distance relationships have it worse than I do and can only communicate by mail so I feel we can summarize this point with long distance communication really sucks. It is not convenient, it is not personal, and when your communication schedule gets messed up it ruins your day/ week.
Okay, now that I have gotten all of that out, I hope that someone else will be able to relate and appreciate the fact that they are not alone in this. Long distance is not fun, but is totally do-able and we will make it through!
