Learning About Love Through Long-Distance Friendships

Learning About Love Through Long-Distance Friendships

Long-distance loyalty

Friendship. It might be the most important relationship to have ever existed. Friends change you for the better. They challenge you, feed you when you have no money, make you laugh and listen to you while you cry on their shoulder. They can be more like family than family has ever been. Friends are the ones that we know choose us, no matter what.

If you're anything like me, you have at least one friend that lives far, far away. Whether it's a friend who lives halfway across the country, or one who is just a few hours' drive, long distance friendships are the tricky reality of most college students. Currently, out of my best friends, the one most accessible to me lives 250 miles away. That is a four hour drive, or a 75 hour walk (thank you, Google).

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and I, like many of my college friends, am finding that to be painfully true this summer. As both an extrovert and a very social creature, my friends are key to my survival. Mentally, emotionally and even sometimes physically, due to my accident-prone nature. I am spending three months away from my people, and I think those around me are getting tired of the complaints.

“What about your friends from before college?” you say. Well, my very best friends from childhood live on the East Coast while I reside in the mid-west. Not exactly ideal for keeping up the bestie bond.

I try my hardest to keep up with my friends and stay involved in their lives, but it’s not always the easiest task. My readers with long-distance best friends know what I’m talking about.

We call him/her on FaceTime, in hopes of talking for even 10 minutes, only to receive no answer for the eighth day in a row.

We mail letters and packages containing candy and other cheap things that make us think of the other.

We post sappy captions on an Instagram picture because we're missing our best friend a little more today than usual.

We make plans for the next time we see each other, even if that is two years away.

We hug and cry when we are finally reunited.

Through all of the struggles, all of the "I miss you" text messages, I know that my best friends will always be there. There is something special about a friendship that can last over long distances, and something even more special about one that can thrive over distance and time. Knowing that your friend is putting in an effort, making time to talk to you, thinking of you and your inside jokes, that is enough to know that your friendship will always last. These are the friends that I call at two in the morning when life sucks.

Long distance friendships have a lot to teach us. Patience. Perseverance. Faithfulness. Love. My friends may not get to see my horrible sunburn in person this summer. They may not have been there when the fire alarm went off at four in the morning during finals week. They may not be able to physically be here when I need them, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t here. They still listen, comfort and challenge me every day. They push through the distance. They choose me and our friendship every time they text, call or FaceTime.

So thank you, long distance friends, for being the ones that we can always count on to be there. Thank you for being the ones to teach us what friendship is all about.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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