The Lone Wolf

The Lone Wolf

Being a lone wolf does not make you a loner, it makes you different, and there's nothing wrong with that.


When I think about the lone wolf, I think about packs of wolves, running with each other because they share a common goal or they are afraid of going at it alone. The lone wolf is something different. He knows the tasks ahead. He knows the path he runs on is tough . But, he still goes at it alone. Sometimes, it's by choice. Other times, he can't find anyone to run with him. Regardless, he still walks whatever path he chooses. No one to stop him. No one to have his back. He's alone. When people see the lone wolf, they don't think for a second about how he feels or what he thinks. He knows this better than anyone. Still, he's just running on the path. No matter what, the lone wolf is just running and roaming around, looking at these packs. Then he looks at himself and just continues on his path.

Why am I telling you all of this?

Because I am the lone wolf. For as long as I can remember, I have always considered myself "the lone wolf." Sometimes it's a choice. Other times, it's not. I'm what you call an extra introvert. I like to socialize. I like to meet new people. I basically like everything an average extrovert likes. The only thing is, not a lot of people give me a chance. I don't know why. And I try not to give a crap. But despite being a lone wolf, I still walk the path I choose with dignity, confidence, the Lord's Strength, and personality. Being a lone wolf surrounded by packs is like being one student surrounded by cliques on a college campus. I walk the college campus with the goal of getting my college degree and living life to the fullest. But, while I'm doing that, I see fraternities, sororities, clubs, and other social groups flooding the campus in different areas. That's how it is on a lot of college campuses. And where do I stand? I'm just running on my path. I'm not going to lie. Sometimes, being a lone wolf can be sad. It can make you feel longing to find a friend or a female companion that you can talk to or hang out with. Even when you know you have at least one of those, you still feel alone in your current state of mind, which means you also have to be your own motivator. Sometimes, I feel great to be a lone wolf. Just because I'm a lone wolf does not mean I don't stand out. I do a lot to stand out for myself. I show my talents. I speak what's on my mind. I set high ambitions for myself because I can know I can be something someday. And I remember the family and friends that had such a powerful impact on my life. So, overall, I accept that I'm the lone wolf and I make the best out of it.

How does this relate to you?

Even in cliques that are joined or in packs that are formed, every part of the clique or pack is different. They have something that they provide to the table that the pack can't live without. In other words, everyone is different in their own special way. They deal with their own stuff. They have certain parts of their life that make them who they are. But what makes the lone wolf interesting is that he is strong, mentally and physically. He has heart. He has courage. He would take a hit for those he cares about or those that can't hold their own. There is always a lone wolf in certain areas. If you consider yourself as a lone wolf, it doesn't make you weird, anti-social, or alone. It only makes you different. And I would rather be different than basic.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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10 Pieces Of Advice From Kid President That Got Us Through Our Toughest Days

He might be young, but he's so wise.


The Kid President made his debut in 2012 and has impacted many lives with his positivity and kind words. He provides insight into negative situations and gives us all words to live by. Here are 10 times his words helped us get through the day.

1. When we didn't want to follow through with plans.


We've all been in the position where we had a bad day and wanted to cancel our plans. People want you there, so it's true: just you being there does make it awesome.

2. When you felt like you were struggling as a parent.


Your kids love you as a parent. They look up to you and value everything you do! Realistically, you're doing a great job and your kids see it, too.

3. When you felt like quitting.


You might be an adult, but there's still a force within you to keep you going.

4. When you felt overwhelmed.


Kid President gives great advice when it comes to being stressed: pause, breathe, love. It only takes a few minutes to pause and breathe in order to get back on track.

5. When you felt like you didn't matter.


You're here for a reason and have a spot on this planet, you matter.

6. When you saw your cousin post something political on Facebook.


Post-election Facebook was a battleground full of insults and disagreements. It's okay to disagree, but there's no reason for us to go out of our way to make someone else feel bad about their position.

7. When you someone cut you off driving and you want to hawk them down.


... then don't do it. Plain and simple. It won't do anyone any good to go after someone for something that really isn't a big deal.

8. When you felt like no one was listening.


You have so much to say and share, people will listen, especially if you have good things to say.

9. When you felt like you didn't know what you're doing.


If you're wearing pants and have toilet paper, you're doing a good job being an adult.

10. When you needed encouragement to get up.


Straight to the point, let's do it. You don't have to do it alone, but you have to do it.

Kid President is the king of good advice. It's all put in simple terms because we don't need to complicate anything anymore.

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