Living in the Sorority House

Living in the Sorority House

Something that seems so brutal is actually so, so sweet.

68 girls.

Yes, you read that right: 68 girls from all different walks of life living under the same roof. To most (and to freshman year me), this sounds fun yet extremely scary.

Girls can be mean, girls can be messy, and girls can be emotional, and whoever thought it would be a great idea to put 68 of them in one house was absolutely crazy.

However, they also knew how great of an experience it would be.

I'm a sophomore at the University of Georgia, and I decided to live in my sorority house this year. If you had asked me if I thought I got along with my entire pledge class, I'd probably have said, "Yeah, for the most part." I'd like to think that during freshman year, we all got along pretty well and enjoyed each other's company. However, I had this mindset that we were all very, very different. I would have never called it a "bad" type of different. I thought I knew everyone pretty well, and I figured living in the sorority house would be really fun. But I didn't know how our "differences" would affect our living situation.

Once we moved in, something crazy started to happen: I didn't only hang out with my friends. The more and more time I spent living in the house, the more I have gotten to know the girls in my pledge class that, quite frankly, I thought were "SO" much different than me.

Living in the house has taught me that I'm not cooler than any of the girls in my pledge class; actually, they're all way cooler than I'll ever be. The ones who intimidated me are actually the most down to earth, hilarious girls I've ever met. The ones who seemed shy are actually more bubbly and energetic than I am at times. They're all fun, crazy, loud, and exciting, but they're also humble, kind, selfless, and sincere. They love me well and love each other well, and I don't think I would've ever been able to witness this if I hadn't lived in the house. The girls I rarely hung out with last year are the first ones I find myself wanting to study, eat, or watch the Debate with. We go to class together, we go "clown hunting" together, we complain about boys together, and we get to simply do life together. And if I hadn't chosen to live with these 68 girls, I would've been missing out on this incredible experience I'm having.

Yes, we're all still girls. We're all emotional, dramatic, loud, and crazy. We do sometimes fight, we aren't all "best friends," and we aren't all going to be bridesmaids in each other's weddings. However, we get to live with each other. Despite the outward "differences" that are easy to spot, I'm learning more and more each day that these girls are just as normal, weird, and obnoxious as I am.

So, to the girls who live in the sorority house with me: thank you. Thank you for listening to me complain about boys, going to get Racetrac slushies with me, and filling me in on all of your latest drama. Thanks for staying up late and "studying" with me and for letting me borrow your clothes all the time. Living with y'all has been quite the adventure, and I'm so glad that the year isn't over yet.

And, to the girls who are debating living in the sorority house: do it. You won't regret it, I can promise you that. These are the girls who will kill the cockroach in your bathroom for you, let you Venmo them back when you forget your wallet and sing post-break up songs with you at the top of your lungs. They are so much more like you than you could ever imagine, but if you don't give it a shot, you're going to miss out on figuring that out. Trust me, it's so, so worth it.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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I Didn't Join A Panhellenic Sorority

It's okay if you don't join a panhellenic sorority. Sometimes a different organization can turn out to be the best thing.


Before going to college I was faced with a dilemma, should I rush? I wanted to rush just for the social aspect, I thought it would be my best shot at making a bunch of friends. However, deep down I knew that greek life really wasn't me. I didn't want to do something if I wasn't one hundred percent behind it. There was a part of me that did want to be in a sorority but the other part of me really didn't want to rush. Let me be clear, I don't think Greek life is bad, I just think it wasn't for me. I talked to my brother and sister-in-law about this because they both were in Greek life at the college I attend now; they told me that they didn't think I would like it either.

What my brother and sister-in-law told me that I might like was, a Christian sorority called Sigma Phi Lambda. When they described it to me it seemed like exactly what I was wanting. As soon as I got to college I sought them out; and I went to their recruitment nights. I loved it! It was exactly what I was looking for. I ended up joining. This sorority brought me an amazing group of friends! Most importantly, I have joined the perfect sorority for me! A few things I liked most about Sigma Phi Lambda was the people were so welcoming, it was more low key and laid back, I was still able to have a big and a "Pham", we still did lots of sorority things whilst also having activities that strengthened us on our walks with the Lord, and I gained so many sisters that I now have strong relationships with. Sigma Phi Lambda gave me so many friends and something to be involved in on campus. They gave me somewhere to belong and I am so glad I chose to join them.

Rushing may be exactly what you need when you go to college, but if it's not that is okay. Just join something that makes you happy. Join an organization that helps you grow and surrounds you with people that you want to be around. I promise when you get to college that there is an organization for just about everything, find the one that fits you. No matter what you choose I promise it's good. Just make sure you choose what is right for you.

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