There are people who are concerned about being in a relationship. When we look around and see that our friends are happy with their boyfriend/girlfriend, we sometimes wish we had that. I'm not saying that it is impossible to find "that one," what I am trying to say is what's the rush? As a college student being in a relationship and focusing on school while meeting a bunch of new people is a lot. Why not just enjoy the life we have now being single? Being in a relationship can be and is great. To have someone there for you, to love you for who you are. But it's also great to be free on your own.
I found that there is a difference between being in a relationship and not being in a relationship. Not just how my life is now but who I am. I found myself acting different, happier with myself and loving myself while being single. Being single is not a bad thing. If you think of it in a positive way, you will end up being pretty happy with your life and being single will not be such a bad thing to you. Instead of thinking about the bad things of not being in a relationship, we should think about the positive things about not being in a relationship.
You are able to focus on yourself and on being happy.
While being in a relationship, I found myself being so concerned about his happiness that I forgot about my own happiness. Being single I am able to focus on myself and do what makes me happy each and every day. You are able to do what makes you happy and you don't have to worry about whether or not what you are doing will make the other person happy.
You're saving more money by not having to by gifts for your significant other.
We all love gifts. I personally loved getting and making gifts for my significant other. But let's be honest, there are things we want to buy for ourselves once and awhile. While being single, you are able to do what you want with your money and you don't have to worry about spending money on someone and getting them the perfect gift.
You have more time to do whatever you want.
I found that in the beginning of my relationship, I spent a lot of time with the guy I was dating. Now that I think about it I never really had time to myself or with my friends. Being single, I am able to hang out with all of my friends and I am able to find some time to myself. You are able to do whatever you want, whenever you want and you don't need to check and see if your significant other wants to come.
You are able to meet other people without making someone jealous.
One thing I was concerned about while in being in a relationship was meeting new people. I was afraid he would not like my friends and the people I hung out with during my free time. You never want to make your significant other jealous as well. When you aren't dating anyone, you find yourself meeting a lot of new people and hanging out with new friends. I found myself being happier knowing I was in control of who I got to hang out with.
No one is going to bring you down and you'll begin to love yourself again.
What I found happening to myself during my relationship was that I was not happy with myself. I was too concerned about what he thought of me. I was scared of doing and saying the wrong thing to make him upset. Not all relationships are like this but there are some where your significant other may bring you down a lot. If this is happening, it is a toxic relationship that you should get out of immediately. While you're single, you are able to learn to love yourself. It is important to love yourself first before getting into any kind of relationship. Being single you are able to work on that and you won't be alone because you have your friends to help you.
You won't get hurt.
There are those great and perfect relationships. But there are also those relationships where you get hurt a lot. When you get out of a bad relationship, you are able to breathe fresher air and realize you deserve better and you don't need to get hurt by him anymore. Being single means that no one has the power to hurt you because you won't let them. No one will bring you down. You will be able to love yourself again and realize you are worth it. Being single, I realized nothing and no one can bring me down anymore and I am happier now more than ever.
Yes, relationships can be great and wonderful. But just remember that you have a lot of time ahead of you to find "that one." Don't rush into a relationship just because you feel like you need one or because everyone else is in one. You don't need a significant other to be who you are. Just focus on yourself for now. Be happy, buy yourself something, meet new people, and most importantly love yourself. Enjoy the single life now and when the day does come, you will be happy you didn't spend this time doing nothing.
