I think today, we are so obsessed with labels and stereotypes. Especially when it comes to sexuality. It just feels like if you’re not straight, you feel pressured to squeeze into another mold. And trying to fit a label isn’t really benefiting you; it’s just for people to understand you better.
But you know what?
It’s none of their damn business!
It took me a while to realize that. I pretty much like whoever, I simply don’t care about gender. There’s nothing to it really. It was right before I entered my 20’s when I realized I haven’t been interested in a lot of men lately, but I didn’t think much about it. And then a little bit later, I started to have feelings for a woman. I won’t lie, my initial response was, oh crap! Because whenever I liked someone new, one of the best parts was spilling the beans to your best friends. But suddenly, I was missing out on doing that, simply because of the switch of gender. Looking back now it doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it’s normal for a straight person to be a deer in headlights when they suddenly become attracted to someone of the same sex.
So instead of enjoying these new feelings, I became anxious because I felt pressured to find a new label just in order to tell anybody. And I spent months and months trying to figure out what the hell I actually am. It was exhausting because some months I thought I was one thing, and other months I thought I was something else. But now I’m saying enough. I don’t want to go through another questioning game just because of the gender of who I’m catching feelings for.
If you’re friends with me on facebook, you’re probably thinking, “Didn’t you come out as bisexual not too long ago?” And this is why I wanted to talk about this. There are a lot of people who are still trying to get a grasp of sexuality. To answer your question, I am for the most part, but I don’t completely fit the mold. For people who are really obsessed with labels, that’s the one I go with because it’s close enough. So that’s why I came out as bi on Facebook. But honestly, I wish I just said I am me, and I like whoever I want.
So I guess I’ll just say that now. And if you’re out of the closet, but don’t feel the label came out with is you, then don’t worry, and don’t feel you have to tell anyone you changed your mind. Just say you like whoever you want, and just leave it there.
But as far as I know, right now, I am attracted to kind people. I’ve noticed lately that I focus more on personality than looks or gender. That could change over time, and if it does, then so what?
Don't worry about what you are, just enjoy the feelings you have for that someone new. It's your personal life, you don't have to report to anybody.
