If you have any kind of social media, especially Facebook, I can guarantee that at least once or twice in the past month your feed has been bombarded with a happy couple announcing their engagement. Better yet you could see the baby announcements, baby photos, or family photos. The older you become the more often your feed is filled with these shenanigans. Sometimes the news pops up on your phone when an old best friends texts you saying "GUYS I'M FINALLY ENGAGED!!"" rather than on your Facebook or Twitter feed. It's inevitable you will run into one of these posts or text messages at some point and when you do you will be filled with an array of emotions.

The first of which is probably a mixture of excitement and shock, especially if it's your best friend. Shock is more likely than anything else because when you're in your twenties or even younger you don't really expect anyone to be getting married and settling down so soon. It's exciting if it's your best friend because if you know that they're about to be really happy, you're going to be happy, even if that means that you will have to attend the wedding standing in a fluffy pink dress in front of a bunch of people you hardly know. Also it means that you will be sitting there babysitting their future child, even if children scare the hell out of you.

The next emotion which I personally get 90% of the time I see all of these big announcements is confusion and the question "Why??" I'm a pretty independent person and still in the phase of "you're young so enjoy your freedom" and "there's no point in settling down right now." Don't get me wrong, I am overjoyed for all of those who have found someone that they want to spend the rest of their life with, or that are happily expecting a child, but I would never want it at this point in my life. I was always told that your twenties are supposed to be when you're selfish. It's where you take advantage of the fact that you don't have many responsibilities and many things to worry about. You take advantage of the fact that you can pick up and travel to a different country at pretty much any moment or go take a job anywhere you want because you don't have to worry about risking someone else's future by taking them with you and away from their job.This isn't to say that one day I wouldn't love to join everyone in their happy announcements but at this point I want to focus on my education, and future career.

The last emotion is bitterness. This is because while they're in a happy relationship and getting married, you're still single or dealing with all of the emotional relationship drama, wondering if a happy committed relationship is something that only exists in the land of unicorns and never ending rainbows. They're in a stable relationship with someone that is promising to always be around while some days you're lucky to even get a text back from the guy that you're interested in. Even worse, you're stuck going to weddings listening to everyone ask one-hundred and one questions about why you don't have anyone in your life right now while they get to easily dodge those questions. Long story short they're happy and you're sitting there thinking about how single you are and positive that you will forever be single and will never be in the same boat as them.

Overall the older you get the more you will see everyone's big news and over time you will actually have to attend these events rather than just read about it on your laptop or cell phone. As much as the idea of this happening to you may gross you out because you're too busy focusing on your own future, or because you think that you will never have that in your life, it will actually happen to you. It may take more time than all of your Facebook friends but one day or another you will be just as happy, if not happier, than everyone else that you're watching step into the next chapter of their lives. Just remember that it takes time to find someone that loves you like Kanye loves Kanye (cause that's a lot of love) but one day you will and when that happens you will be joining everyone else on their social media engagement news.