Life is Like Driving a Car

Life is Like Driving a Car

Reflections on how driving has so many analogies for life itself

You look at your schedule, and you have to time out how long it will take you to get from Point A to Point B. You measure the distance, take traffic into consideration, and then guesstimate how long the drive will be. It really is just a guess, maybe a good educated guess, but a guess nonetheless, because nothing in life truly is for certain- ever. Whenever I'm in my car, I tend to turn the music off and reflect on the life swirling by around me. This time is different, I realize that all the people driving past me or behind me, or cutting me off, these are representations of life itself. Life is a lot like driving a car.

You have a destination in mind. At least, I hope you do. Sometimes you don't, and sometimes you just need to go for a drive, nowhere specific to go. That's life, right? (All the college kids said Amen.) Some people have a very specific destination, down to knowing exactly where they will park and what time (or so they plan to). Others hope to just arrive some place, while others still just hope they don't die along the way.

While driving, you come into contact (physically or just by sight) with other people along the road. Some are going the opposite direction, and you probably barely even notice them. You might stop somewhere along the road, meet someone, like them and want to continue the friendship, but they hop on the freeway going south, and you know you need to keep heading north, thus the friendship or relationship severs- for better or for worse.

Some people may really piss you off (maybe that's just me because I have road rage every now and then). They may cut you off, side swipe you, run head on into you, tailgate you, flip you off or even slow you down. They may not even notice you, and that can really frustrate you. You can be as aware as you want along the road, but at some point you have to be prepared for those who aren't aware at all. A good driver isn't just in control of their motions, but they understand that sometimes they need to prepare to take evasive action when others aren't paying attention- and to not let their lack of action stop you from being on top of things.

When someone cuts you off or flips you off, it's not the end of your world. It may be frustrating, you may be tempted to speed up just to cut them off back, but that's not mature. Some people may slow you down, and you have to decide to stay close to them in the slow lane, or realize that you need to be more on top of things, pursuing your destination at the speed you were originally going.

There are a lot of traffic lights. Sometimes, you can speed through a yellow and just miss the red light. Other times, you think you could speed through the yellow in time, but you get caught in the red. Still other times, the yellow light doesn't stop someone else, and you end up in a bad accident. Sometimes in life, when you're called to slow down, it's for your own protection, safety and well-being. We too often try to take control of those situations and rush through it, but that could be deadly. Yellow lights were meant to give us a break, to have boundaries, to rest even if only for a 60 second stop light.

Regardless of where you're driving, no matter the time of day, just remember that every other driver you see or meet has a story too. As you see them pass you in the fast lane, when they cut you off, while you watch them drive the opposite direction, or you see them broken down on the side of the road- each driver is just like you; going somewhere with possibly a lot of baggage, most certainly with a story and a reason to go. Don't be so quick to cuss them out in the privacy of your own car when they might have just lost a loved one, or they're rushing to the hospital because a loved one's in labor or in need. Every car has a driver, every driver has a story, and every story matters along the road of life.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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