Commitment is hard. We all want to feel like we can handle being placed in a situation where we can wholeheartedly say that we sign off on something, when in reality, we cannot. There are many big things that you can commit to such as a relationship, marriage, children, a certain major and many other different things and whether you know it or not, you can have some internal struggles dealing with the certain commitment issues that you have. Life might seem easy and dandy and fun at first, but once you realize that once you have to settle down and choose something, it’s not fun at all.
Life makes everything hard because it is. Commitment is harder. Going through life, I never really committed to much of anything. I went to school and then I went home and then everything was the same way every day. In reality, I had committed to much more than I thought that I did. I committed to my daily routine and schedule and to my friends and it baffles me that that was a little commitment that I gave myself without even realizing it. The bigger things are what scares me – and what must scare most people as well.
When we grow up, we realize that being an adult is not as fun as we hoped it would be when we were little. Life hits us like a brick and it takes us a minute to catch our breath. Commitment is not always easy, but in the long run it is worth it. Being an adult – or college student – makes us realize that we actually have to start doing adult things. Relationships are hard and scary to jump into. Relationships are weird and awkward at first, but if you are wholeheartedly committed to that one person, then nothing should stand in your way. Choosing a major might be a big step and a harder commitment. Some people only want to have to go to college once and that means right after high school you have to already be committed to a school, a degree plan and all that jazz. How awful. The fact is, you want to know what you want to do for the rest of your life no matter how tough or hard it seems.
Commitment issues resonate from not wanting what we thought we wanted in the first place. We go into things thinking that we can handle it and thinking that we can come out on top, but we can’t. Some people don’t have an issue with commitment, but others go into each situation not knowing their plan of action. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that not being able to commit is a bad thing but it isn’t a good thing either. If you can’t commit to a relationship, that said person might not be able to wait too long and that’s bad because you might lose them. If you don’t want to commit to a certain major in college, it will always be there where you can come back to it.
Commitment is not all good nor is it all bad.
