Ahh, wedded bliss. Let me tell you, it is something else. Picture this, you met someone and then they decide that they are crazy enough to want to marry you. As in spend the rest of their life with you. That's huge-especially for someone as crazy as me. I was lucky enough to marry my equally as crazy husband on January 18, 2016. The first year of this crazy thing called love has been quite the trip. The weirdest part to me has been people asking me, "So what changed in the first year?" Let me tell you-not a damn thing, and here's why.
If you marry someone and then things completely change there is a high chance that you did not marry the right person. I wholeheartedly believe that you need to do a few things before you tie the knot. One of those is spend time getting to know each other. There are so many couples these days that literally rush into everything. They hook up before they even know each other's full name and then they expect everything to be all perfect. Bring back the art of dating. Go to dinner, go to the movies, let him hold the door for you. Do all of that cheesy crap first or at least while you are casually hooking up on the side. Let's face it, physical attraction is really important too.
Second, I think you need to live together before you decide that you want to spend your whole life together. I mean, think about it. What if he can't handle your dragon breath in the morning? Or what if he poops with the door open and you can't handle that kind of relationship? You learn a TON about someone when you are constantly with them. If you plan to jump into marriage without living with each other beforehand, you're going to be in for quite a few surprises and probably a ton of arguments.
Finally, marriage shouldn't be hard. It shouldn't be complicated. You shouldn't feel inclined to go through his phone when he leaves it in the living room. You shouldn't question whether or not you made the right decision. I am not saying that it will always be rainbows and butterflies, either. You will argue. There will be nights when he is out too late with the boys and nights when you annoy him so much that he envisions throwing you off a cliff. That's normal. When you stop communicating and having the arguments-that's when the real problems start.
My first year of marriage has been a trip and I wouldn't have it any other way, but by no means have there been significant changes. I married my best friend and I am so lucky to be able to call him mine.
