Life is made up of relationships. Before I go any further, I want to talk about what I mean when I say relationship. I am simply meaning any connection that two people have. This could be in the form of a friendship, family or romance. There are other relationships such as work relationships, or class relationships. There are many people that come into your life on the day-to-day. Some people come into your life for a day, a week, a month, a year, a lifetime. There are those that bring nothing but good, but there are those who are not good for you.
I am here to talk to you about those that are not good for you. They are in fact, a barrier to your happiness. For whatever reason you may have, you do not need them in your life. If you sit back and think about how you feel about them, and just end up being anxious or sad, you do not need them. At the end of the day, you are going to bed with yourself, not them.
That is the point I want to get across to you. No matter what, no matter who, you need to do YOU. It is as simple as that, even though it is not always easy. I have personally put myself on the back burner to allow others to be happy, or get their way, causing me unhappiness and discomfort, but this is more destructive than cutting people out that make you do that. If somebody is preventing you from truly being able to be yourself, then that is an indicator that they should not be in your life.
The actual process of cutting the person out is so difficult. It is heartbreaking. If you're anything like me, letting go of somebody you care about is a hard thing to do. You never want to give up on that person, but you don't want to give up on yourself. Surround yourself with those who know what you are doing and why, and go to them for reassurance whenever you need it. You don't have to tell them why you are cutting them out, but you can just tell them that you're taking time for yourself.
Afterwards, after that person, or people, are out, things will get clearer. You won't constantly have that cloud just hanging over your shoulders, and you won't be in an unhealthy relationship. There is no time like the present to start getting in a healthy relationship with yourself, and out the unhealthy relationships with others.
