Dear Society,
How is waiting? How is sitting around waiting for a text or waiting to talk the boy you want to talk to? Or even, how is waiting for you to stand up for your friends or do something for you? As time has gone, we have been told more and more, wait it out and let things fall into place. I “love” when I ask for advice and my friends tell me not to text first but wait for him to text me. I don’t get it, we wait because we fear rejection or we wait because we were told to? If I was in the mood to text him and ask him to hang out, what is so wrong with that? When you are your friends sit and hangout and each of them have different advice for you, it is not helpful.
“Wait for him to text you first.”
Why do I need to wait? If he does text me, that's great. If he does not text me, that leaves me with three options: broken phone (unlikely), not interested, and unknown. I feared rejection till i realized i am not the only one getting rejected, so why wait. Why not now why not try and text him, if he doesn't answer at least we know who tried and who showed confidence. So when I ask my friends casually if I should text them, I would want them to give me the response I would give them, “Yeah, why the hell not?!”
“Don’t answer for, like, 15 minutes.”
Like, why? If I see the text, read receipts on or not, why can’t I answer? I saw the message, I know what I want to say, so I am sending it. This is the first problem. You open the text and type out a response, then you pause and ask your friend, and they go on a speech that ends with a different response. Minutes go by, you haven't responded because now you're scared, then you either respond with a short response, or you don’t respond at all. Yet, all you wanted was to open the text of “wanna hang” and respond with, “yeah, when,” but instead you end up with, “oh um sure.” Just go with your gut, stop playing hard to get, if you want to hang out, go hang out.
“You can’t text first, you texted last.”
What does this even mean? The other day the guy didn't respond to me during a conversation, but a few days later I wanted to ask him to hang. But I can’t, because I texted last? Who cares who texted last. If people go on with these thoughts set in their mind, no one will be texting anybody. Pick up your phone, text him, and go on with your day. It is just weird otherwise.
Go text the person right now, because if not, you will pause, overthink, then go into a state of overthinking where you start thinking down on yourself, your actions, and how others feel about you, when all it is is a simple text “hey.” Stop being weird and overthinking. From the awkward me, I learned a lot, and noticed that I would rather text and ask to hang out because I want to hang out. Why complicate a simple text that won't matter later on? Just don’t overthink what is right in front of you, don't be annoying, but don't hide either.
Sincerely,
Me.
