To the person who never feels like they will move on,
First of all, you will some day. Trust me.
It won't be easy, I can tell you that right off the bat. How do I know this, you ask? Because I've done it. I've had to do it many times and I probably will have to a few more times.
It's not easy. It sucks as a matter of fact. There's nothing worse than sitting there with that one person who broke your heart constantly on your mind and in your heart. It's not fun at all. No one wants to be reminded of what they've been through, nor do they want to feel all the pain of past memories over and over again. What's even worse is knowing that you cannot go back and make things right. What's past is past.
What you have to keep in mind is that you are a strong, independent individual who cannot be defined by who they were with, nor be defined by what they have done in the past. You are strong, and you can get through this. You can move forward and leave all of those memories and the heartbreak behind because what's ahead of you is much more exciting!
Yes, there will be days where you feel great and like you are on the top of the world. There will also be days where it feels like you'll never get through it. Yes, you will find that people will talk about your breakup behind your back. Yes, you will have to deal with many tears and you may even have to deal with a setback or two.
Moving on completely won't happen overnight either. It will take time. It may take months or even a year or two. But I'm telling you, it's worth the wait.
For the time being, use this time of moving on to focus on yourself. Whatever ended, ended for a reason. This also means that you were not meant to be in that relationship. No matter how much you thought in the beginning that it was meant to be, obviously it wasn't if it ended. That's not easy to hear, I know. I cringed at when I heard that for the first time. But there are so many wonderful things ahead of you, don't waste your time constantly thinking about it.
Do something that will help you take your mind off of it and something that will be good for you. Whether that be hanging out with friends, listening to new music, trying out a new sport or activity. Whatever it takes.
Forget about all that happened no matter how hard it may be. When you look back years from now when you've moved on, you won't feel the pain you felt back then. You won't want to cry every time you hear their name. You'll be able to smile and say, "I did it! I moved on!" and then you'll do your happy dance because you did it!
Don't sit and wallow for the rest of your life. It's okay to wallow for a little bit, but don't let it stop you from living your life. Because if you do, you'll miss out on so many opportunities that are laying right in front of you. Don't keep knocking on that closed door, because it's not going to open. Keep your eyes on the open doors and see where they will lead you!
For now, keep your head up. You can do this. There's nothing that will bring you down because you are strong and you are completely capable of moving forward. You can move forward and leave all of those memories and heartbreak behind because what's ahead of you is much more exciting! You're not alone and have more than enough strength to move on.
