Our generation has destroyed the meaning of love. Love is real, although some would like to argue that just because you found someone that you truly love and care about doesn't mean you will end up with that person. While a break-up is something that most people don’t like to think about, it happens.
Does this mean that you have to hate the person? No. Does this mean that you have to constantly have negative thoughts and feelings for the person? No.
This is something that most people in our generation do not understand. It hurts my heart to see two people that used to be so madly in love bashing each other. You loved that person for a reason. While you might not be together anymore, that doesn’t mean that you have to have ill feelings for or, even worse, hate the person.
I understand that some relationships don’t end well. Writing from experience, I am lucky enough to say that this wasn’t the case for me. I was able to end on relatively okay terms with the person that I loved. I believe that being angry is part of the healing process when suffering a heartbreak. I would be lying if I said that I did not spend some time after we broke up being angry. While this is normal, you do not have to show that part of your healing process. There were plenty of times that I had things to say that weren’t really the nicest, but in the end that was something that I needed to keep to myself. Because in the moment, I may have thought that I meant them, but in the end that was all part of me healing.
Healing is truly a beautiful thing. It is crazy how you can go from such a low point in your life, during which you don’t know if you will truly ever be the same, to becoming this brand new person. My healing process has been nothing but trial and error, and, goodness, has it been difficult. It’s still not over for me. I don’t know when it will be, but I am content with my life being about me and only me right now. This process has made me realize who is really there for me and who and what I need to remove from my life to be the real me.
So, to the person that I truly loved,
Thank you. Thank you so much for all that you did for me. When we loved each other, I was such a lost version of myself. I know that it couldn’t have been easy to deal with me. I couldn’t even deal with myself sometimes. While I never thought that our journey would end, it did. All at once. I’m really not sure what even caused it to happen when it did. I would lie awake for months trying to figure it out. While I have my guesses, I’ve decided it is time to stop the guessing. It’s the past. While I never thought I would be able to do this thing called life without you, I have and will continue to every day. Does this mean that I don’t care about you or wonder about you? Absolutely not. I will always care. That’s the crazy thing about love. When you truly love someone, you will never stop caring about them. While it might not be on the same level as it was when you were together, you still want nothing but the absolute best for them. I’m very grateful for the time that we spent together. While I look back on those times and it seems like a lifetime ago, it does make my heart happy. Because you will always have a special place in this healing heart of mine.
Sincerely,
Me
