Dear “not-so-sorority” sorority girl,

First and foremost, never question whether you’re worthy enough or not. You are. A group of courageous, strong, exuberant, intelligent, and beautiful women individually chose you to help lead them to greatness. You do belong. But it’s OK to be different. Actually, it’s quite great to be different. If the world were filled with plethoras of you it would be boring. Lacking the “sorority image” doesn’t make you less than, it makes you greater.

It’s OK to be edgy and stand out. It’s OK to not own every color of Kendra’s or even know all the names for that matter. It’s OK to not have a monogrammed jacket, headband, purse, shoes, and backpack. It’s OK to not have this season’s Michael Kors purse or Tory Burch sandals. It’s OK to not know which Kardashian is which, or why they’re even a thing. It’s OK to like scream-o music because sometimes there is no better solution then to just scream your lungs out. It’s OK to have tattoos and piercings (Show them off! Your body is your canvas!). It’s OK to not know how to contour your face or wand your hair. It’s OK to not have every shade of Kylie Jenner’s lipstick. It’s OK to dye your hair pink if that’s the mood you’re in. It’s OK to love the different wonders of life instead of needing materialistic things.

Society, especially the Greek community, gives a persona to the “typical college sorority girl” when sorority women are taught to love everybody and be unique. And we do, and we are. However, that doesn’t mean we don’t fight our own demons. To every “not-so-sorority” sorority girl, it’s OK to not fit into an image. It’s OK to be you. God made us individually unique so we can share our individuality to the world.

People have asked me before why does being in a sorority even matter? Well, it matters deeply. After reflecting on what it really is that makes a sorority woman a “sorority woman,” I came to a quite cool realization. It’s not about the materialistic things but the true composite of a sorority woman. It takes courage, leadership, poise, strength, and resilience. Sorority women hold themselves to a higher standard and constantly strive to further our education and our philanthropic endeavors. Sorority women constantly give back to the community and are one of the biggest contributors to charities. It takes love, happiness, and a want to thrive in success to be a sorority woman. It builds us greater than who we thought we could be.

So strip yourself from the materialism, the trends, and the persona, and delight in the fact that regardless of image, you are a strong woman amongst many of the collegiate's you float upon every day. You make a difference.

That’s what a sorority woman is.

Sincerely,

Me

P.s. I’m so blessed to be part of an organization that embraces everyone for themselves and teaches us to love our beauty and share that with others. I hope every sorority woman can do the same because we are leaders in our society and are constantly looked up to. XOXO