A Letter To The Men Who Don't Realize What They Have Till It's Gone

A Letter To The Men Who Don't Realize What They Have Till It's Gone

Brittany Murdock
Brittany Murdock Nov 3, 2015
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Dear the one who let me go,

I’ve heard it all before: “I was stupid; I didn’t know what I had until it was gone; I realized I messed up.” Well, let me give you a little bit of advice -- that line is getting a tad bit too old. If you don’t remember, you let me go, and you don’t get the decision to walk back into my life whenever it’s convenient for you. It’s emotionally draining and something I just can’t do anymore. Like the caring women that we are, we believe what you say, and we try again placing our fragile hearts back in your hands only to have it destroyed all over again months down the road. We do this even when you promised things would be different this time around. I’m tired of being thought of and considered worth it only after I’m gone.

Well, to your surprise and even to my own surprise, your plea to have me back isn’t going to work. Did you experiment after we broke up and realize that some girl you met at the bar and took home is the complete opposite of me? She doesn’t care about your feelings and doesn’t go out of her way to make your day like I did? I’m tired of being the girl you realized was amazing only after I was gone.

I want a man who knows what he has when he has me, and I have no problem waiting for that man. I’m tired of not being good enough the first time around. I’m tired of people having to seek out what else they can find until returning back to me. I’m tired of being your last option when all else fails. Why does it have to take losing me to find out that you need me back?

The majority of these letters end with thanking that person who broke your heart, and that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I want to thank you for opening up my eyes to the future men who share this legendary line with me because you have saved my heart from yet another heartbreak. You have played a crucial role in my future and when the next guy gives me that legendary line, I’ll be sure to point them in your direction so you can explain to them why you’ve left me with nothing but lack of emotion. It’s a trend with you men and when the next guy says it, I’ll be sure to not believe him and walk away with nothing but pride because I have learned from the very best.

Sincerely,

The girl who was enough the first time around

Cover Image Credit: The Cosmic Dolphin
Brittany Murdock
Brittany Murdock Nov 3, 2015
At University of North Carolina at Wilmington

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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I'll be the first to admit, I'm not exactly what you would call a "morning person." That being said, I think it's high time I bring some joy into my mornings. I mean, life is beautiful, and by not enjoying mornings, I think I'm missing out on a potentially enjoyable part of life.

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Make some toast, eggs, fruit, granola, or yogurt. OR, break out the bacon and have a good time. Any of those options sound like a good morning to me.

2. Drink a fresh cup of coffee (or tea).

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3. Smile when you wake up.

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Start your morning with a good old-fashioned smile. Look in the mirror, look at how wonderfully made you are, and take a moment to smile and take that in.

4. Try to stay off of social media when you first wake up.

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I know, it’s all too easy to become glued to your phone these days, BUT I think that’s a few moments of time away from it, and away from social media, can be a good way to stay positive in the mornings.

5. Journal your thoughts going into the day.

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Take a pen, pencil, and a piece of paper, and take a moment to write down your thoughts, feelings, emotions, or anything else on your mind going into a new day.

6. Put on clothes that make you feel happy.

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Put on whatever outfit makes you happy, whether that’s a cute sweater or a t-shirt. Wear something that makes you feel good.

7. Watch the sunrise.

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OK, so I know you might not be able to do this every morning, but I think that watching the sunrise is the perfect way to start any day. What could be better than taking in all of these wonderful creations?

8. If you can, sit outside and enjoy our planet.

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On that note, take some time to sit outside and enjoy the early morning and the world around you. Start your morning off with some time to really just sit back and take it all in.

9. Spend some time reading something you enjoy.

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Grab a good book, a magazine, or whatever it is you might like to read. Take some time to clear your mind, and then fill it with lots of good writing.

10. Listen to the birds sign a sweet morning song.

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Arguably my favorite thing on the list, I truly can see no downside to listening to the birds chirping away in the morning. If you can, take some time to listen to nature’s sweet morning song.

Hopefully you can try one of these tactics to brighten up your morning, and in turn, maybe even brighten up your whole day. We live in a wonderful world, and I think that it's time we start to recognize that.

Ashley Oldham
Ashley Oldham Feb 15, 2019
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