I was you once. I used to be so wrapped up in someone who no longer, or never really did care about me. Now, looking back on that time of my life, I really wish someone had just slapped me in the face.

It is hard to give people advice or to try and speed up their recovery from a break up because moving on won't happen by force. The only way a person can truthfully get over someone is really up to them. No matter the amounts of "You can do better", "He's such a douchebag", or "Just move on already" that you hear, you will not be able to get over him until you tell yourself that you are.

One thing I will say though, is that the first step to getting over someone is to literally delete them from your life. Erase their contact, unfriend them on FaceBook, unfollow them on Twitter and Instagram, and block them on Snapchat. Out of sight out of mind. I know what you are thinking, but I like knowing what he is doing and seeing the pictures his mom tags him in. That is not going to help you get over him. Stop driving yourself crazy by watching his snap story ten times over or trying to decode his every tweet. That isn't you trying to move on, that is you trying to hopelessly hold onto something that is no longer there.

I know that it is hard to hear from your friends and family about how you are so much better off without him. Believe me, I have been there. Nobody seems to understand but yourself. Your friends are done hearing about him, in fact sometimes if you say his name they even pretend not to listen. I bet that it seems like you have no one to turn to. Take this as "you need to stop thinking and talking about him anyway" because honestly, nothing good will come out of it.

If you are reading this than it is fair to assume that you know you have a problem. He consumes you, I mean his whole existence is sometimes all that you think about. Do you realize that? You are letting someone who pretends as though you don't exist devour every second of your precious life. You are young, you are beautiful and you should embrace that before it is too late. Embrace your life because before you know it you will be 28 and sitting in a coffee shop with the love of your life wondering why the hell you wasted so much time on someone who is now so meaningless.

I know that as you are reading this you are trying to deny it all. You keep glancing over at your phone hoping that at any moment he will call you and tell you he has always loved you and that he will never leave you, because you do not want to accept the fact that you really have to move on. I promise you that it gets easier and I would not say that if it was not true.