We know how it goes -- you break up with someone and decide to take a break for yourself. Your friends might try to set you up with someone after the breakup, but all you want to do is just relax. Spending some time to get to know yourself is really important. Here is a letter to the girl who isn't ready to be in a relationship yet.
To the girl who isn't ready for another relationship,
First off, it is OK to not be ready and it is OK to not want to be in a relationship with someone. You have your own reasons for it, I'm sure. Whether it is because of a bad breakup, wanting to spend some time with yourself, or wanting to focus on your school work, trust me, it makes sense. You don't have to have a reason as to why you don't want to be in a relationship with someone else. You don't have to explain to feel like you are validated in your decision.
You shouldn't feel guilty. With mainstream media almost shoving the idea that you aren't a person without a significant other, it feels weird to not have someone. You might see your friends in relationships and feel a little left out, but you know yourself better than any of your friends. Being in a relationship is hard work, and you shouldn't enter into one unless you're ready to be committed to someone. It isn't something that you enter into without thinking about it first, so it's good to take that break and consider if you really want to be with someone new.
By taking a break from the dating scene, you're able to move onto new opportunities that you might not have been able to take if you were tied down to someone. You can make new friends, make a new career jump, or even try something new that you wouldn't have tried before!
If your ex is in a relationship now and has moved on from your old one it doesn't mean that you have to as well. People move at their own paces when it comes to relationships, you don't have to mimic their time frame to feel better about yourself.
You know yourself better than anyone else, so don't let someone tell you that you need to be dating someone new. Remember to focus on yourself -- you'll know when the time is right again.
So all the single ladies? Put your hands up!
Always stay true to yourself,
A Girl Who Understands
