It's hard for us to give up our own space and our own time for other people, but when those people have the ability to witness every single aspect of our lives, we have to share everything. That is why a roommate is there. She is there for the good, the bad, and the ugly. Your roommate sees when you are at your highest peak, and she also sees when you are in your lowest valley.
I have had the pleasure of having three different roommates in one year. I got along with all of them, but it is hard to be open with everything that happens in your life. I mean, I am an open book so usually all of my close friends know what is going on in my life, but to live with someone is different and sometimes a little harder.
My roommate knows all of my little quirks, such as, I can't sleep with a door open or I turn off the light and run to my bed even though there is nothing there. She also knows my flaws like I talk way too much and sometimes I leave things just lying around. She understands. She is like my best friend and my sister all in one person.
A roommate should be someone you enjoy spending time with. They understand you for all your mess-ups and your downfalls, and they love you anyway. Your roommate should feel more like family than a friend.
I could not imagine living by myself. I would feel so lonely, even though I am surrounded by so many friends. I am an extreme extrovert and I thrive when I am around people. Don't get me wrong, everyone enjoys their alone time, but I would rather be around my friends than be alone.
The roommate I have now is a huge blessing in my life. She makes little jokes when I am upset. She has a similar personality. She is not a complete clean freak which is awesome. Similar living styles make getting acclimated to a new roommate just a little bit easier. A new roommate means new situations to encounter and it also means new life events to enjoy. Those late night Taco Bell runs and those popcorn filled movie nights will be the things that we use to grow closer. She is my roommate, but she is also more than that. She is my best friend and my sister. I would never want to change a thing.
This is how your relationship with your roommate should be. There shouldn't be yelling and screaming all the time. You and your roommate should be able to enjoy each other's company not hating each other.
You need to show love to your roommate. Just like they see you at your best and your worst, they see you just the same. If your roommate is there to comfort you, you should return the favor when they need it, even if they don't ask for it. Let your roommate be your best friend, but sometimes you should let them be even more than that. Let them be your family.
