I'm sure we all have those friends that we absolutely love, but there's just one tiny problem. They suck at communicating. Whether it be communicating what they want or how they feel about things or literally the act of communicating. Well, I have a few things to say to those types of friends.
First off, I'm generally a pretty understanding person when it comes to someone opening a text and not responding, or not snapping me back. I get it, people have lives and they're busy. But eventually it just kind of makes a person want to give up on trying. Why should I keep reaching out to someone when I continually get ignored? And I get that maybe when you opened it you got distracted and forgot to reply. Or maybe you intended on replying later and you forgot. I get that you're busy. However, if the majority of the time I try to talk to you and there's no response then it just kind of feels like you're not trying.
At a certain point I start to wonder if I just managed to miss what you were trying to tell me this whole time. Was I too oblivious to pick up on the fact that you just don't want to talk to me? And once I get to that point I'll get a text from you or a snap. And it's not just you finally responding to me, it'll be you reaching out to me. And when that happens I feel so relieved. You do still plan on being friends with me. But usually pretty quickly after I wonder if this is the type of friendship I want to have? Do I want to be friends with someone where I constantly have to question if we're even friends? Do I want to be a part of a friendship where I feel like crap half the time because I'm constantly making an effort, and it feels like you're do the bare minimum. And of course me being me I quickly dismiss those thoughts as me being dramatic, and I just continue to go through the cycle of trying to reach out to you, getting ignored, finally getting a response, questioning the friendship, and then back to trying to reach out to you.
And sure maybe I'm expecting too much from my friends. Or I truly am not picking up on them not wanting to talk to me. But I'm not someone who quits easily, or gives up on people. Especially when some of these friendships I've had for close to 10 years, and some of those friendships are longer than ten years. If they're not interested in continuing our friendship I'm going to need a huge obvious clue.
I think what I'm trying to say is that I'll be patient, I know these people and they've kind of always have been like this. And I'm used to it, I mean I've stuck around for this long haven't I? But, they should know that sometimes it sucks when they get like this.
