“Growing apart doesn’t change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I’m glad for that.”
To My Former Best Friend:
Hey you, ex-best friend here, long time no see. How are you? How is your job with weird hours treating you? I see you have a new boyfriend who, according to my Instagram stalking, seems as though he’s pretty dang close to the dream guy you always told me about. Is he everything you thought you needed and more? I know you’ve had tough trial and errors with guys, so I sure hope so. I also hope you’re meeting and surrounding yourself with better friends than we had, and that your new best friend doesn’t cause nearly as much drama as we started having toward the end of our friendship. I sincerely, with my full heart, wish that all is going well for you and that you are on the path to reach your goals.
I want you to know that I wish that our friendship had ended on better terms. I thought you were going to be my maid of honor and that our kids were going to be the best of friends. I thought we were going to stick together forever and grow old with one another. It absolutely baffles me how quickly everything can change.
You were my other half. Our friendship started from “Hey, do you want to hang out today?” and evolved to, “Dude, I’m having lunch with your mom, are you coming?” There were no boundaries to any conversation. You were practically my sister. We did everything together because no matter what, it was always a blast when we were together.
I know we didn’t work out, and maybe our paths will never cross again, although I secretly hope they do. But, there are a million things I never thanked you for. In short, however, I just want to thank you for all the words of encouragement and the countless late nights you spent being there for me. I am so grateful to have met you. Without you, I would not be nearly as sassy and confrontational as I am (still not too confrontational, but you definitely gave me a place to start). Thank you for teaching me how to be better about not letting people walk all over me. Thank you for being bluntly honest with me, always. Thank you for taking on every challenge with me, taking silly pictures with me, and being the sister I never had. I learned a lot from our friendship, through its successes and failures.
Life got complicated. Things weren’t as easy anymore. It’s always awkward when I run into some old friends or acquaintances of ours and they ask how you’re doing…”Oh, we aren’t friends anymore…” When asked “Why?” I just have to explain that, as with any friendship, we had some problems that came up and unfortunately we couldn’t move past them. Nonetheless, you touched my heart and you’ll always have a special place there.
What happened between us was for the best at that time. Like I said, I do miss you and hope someday, if at all possible, our paths may cross again and we could catch up some time. Until then, or if that never happens, I do desire that you won’t feel resentful towards me forever, as I don’t towards you, and I’ll still be here if you ever decide you need me again.
I hope you have, or will soon have, a new best friend that you’ll have all the life long memories and laughs with, the one that will be your maid of honor, the one who’s kids will be best friends with yours, and most importantly, the one that has your back through thick and then because you deserve that.
Thanks for all the memories, and don’t worry, all the dirt I have on you is still always safe and sound with me. Stay as passionate and beautiful as you have always been. Be smart about who you surround yourself with. Have strength to pursue your goals.
Warm regards,
Your Old Partner In Crime
