Dear Friend,
As I began to write this letter, I had no idea what to say to you, and really, I still do not. I have never been in your situation; I have not went through what you are going through. The best I can do is continue to say what I have said, what I’m sure you have heard a hundred times or more from me and others, and will continue to hear because it deserves to be said.
I love you. You may not feel this, and I know sometimes when I get frustrated and pushy I do not show it, but I do. You are and will always be one of my best friends.
I know you do not always want to talk about it, but when you do, I hope that you know I will always be here. Even if it, whatever it may be, is not what you want to talk about, I am always here to just talk.
I know you do not always want to go out, to go on trips, or to even see me, but I hope you know that when you decide you do want to go out, or on a trip, or to just hang out, I am here. And yes, I have a schedule and things I have to do, but I will find or make time for you. I also hope you know that I and our other friends will always try to make plans with you, we will always try to see you (even if it means stalking you at work). We hope you know that you saying “Not today” or “I don’t feel like it” or “I’ll think about it” which we all know means “no” does not deter us. We will ask again next time we go out, and the next time we get together, and the next time until you are finally with us again.
This is not an automatic thing we do because we got used to doing it, this is not to guilt you, and it is not to annoy you. We do this because we want you to know that we are still here, we still love you, and we still want to see you. We usually know if what we are about to ask you to do is going to be too much for you, we are prepared when you say no. We are going to ask anyway, because we know one day, even if it is not soon, you will say yes.
This all sounds kind of silly, and probably annoying, and maybe even a little selfish on my part, but it is things I feel the need to tell you, even if I have told you before. I need you to know I love you, I am here, I am not giving up, but most of all, I need you to know that you can take your time. Do not feel rushed by me or any of our other friends, do not feel guilty for telling us no. Focus on you, on your health, and your feelings. We will be here, for whenever or whatever you need us to do.
We always will be.
Your Friend
