You, my best friends, are all in different stages in your life with guys. To all of you who are confidently single, reluctantly single, in the heartbroken phase, in the “it’s complicated” phase, or dating (and making the rest of jealous), this letter is for you.
Whatever stage of life you are in with guys, I am here. I will be excited with you when you meet someone new and heartbroken with you if he breaks your heart. Because you mean the world to me, I want only the best guy for you.
In your confidently single phases, I will stand right there beside you, and we will tackle the world together. In your reluctantly single phases, I will tell you to be patient even when you have heard it from me a thousand times. I will try to steer you away from 'dating just to date' because you deserve so much more than that.
In your heartbroken phase, I will be there, trying so hard to make you smile because it breaks my heart to see yours broken. I will hate him even when you can’t hate him, simply because he hurt you.
When you are in the “it’s complicated” phase, I will be there too. I will interpret what his actions mean, reassure you that he really does like you, and give you advice along every single step of the way. I’ll be there until it becomes “uncomplicated,” no matter how long it takes.
When you start dating someone you really like, I will be thrilled for you. Obviously, he and I will need to quickly become best friends even if he doesn’t know that yet. I will smile at how excited you get when you talk about him, and we will gush together.
In whatever phase you are in, I will be there. I won’t share your secrets with the everyone else I know. I’ll stay up for the inevitable late night conversations we will have, and I’ll notice the little things about both you and him that no one else does.
I’m probably going to be super picky about whoever you date because you mean the world to me. Whatever stage you are in or will go through, know that I just want you to be happy. I want you to tell me about what you are going through. I want to be able to give you advice if you are struggling, or smile with you when things are good. I will be there, just like I hope you will be there for me. Whatever the phase, we will tackle it like we do everything else. Together.
