I Wrote A Letter To My High School Best Friend, Who I Haven’t Seen Since Forever Ago

I Wrote A Letter To My High School Best Friend, Who I Haven’t Seen Since Forever Ago

Even when they're eons away from each other, there's this special bond between best friends that even the universe can't explain.


Dear Best Friend,

A while back, I messaged you about my concerns over your birthday present for this year. Since you'll have literally just turned 19 years old as of this letter's publication date, I wanted the "birthday card" aspect of your gift to be a bit unconventional. After all, this is your last year during which you can live out any residual teenage angst and it'll still be seen as valid, so I figured I might as well make your birthday message all the more distinct (and public).

So with that being written, happy birthday. May your 19th treat you well, and may all your wishes (birthday-candle-style or not) come true.

And hey, I know it's not my birthday—and this totally isn't a birthday wish since slapping on that label would prevent whatever I desire from becoming true—but my greatest wish is for us to see each other again.

We haven't been in the same physical space since our high school graduation last June. Just like the rest of our classmates, that unified path we spent the past four years traveling upon diverged, and we parted ways to pursue individual journeys.

For them, that's totally okay, as those same classmates see each other during breaks and holidays, weekends and days off. But for you and I, you can't exactly come home, and neither of us can exactly travel to meet each other. And when there's a forced estrangement (especially from a viable distance of only a few geographical states), it's easy to be blindsided by the injustice of the situation, and blame the universe for our misfortune.

However, I've been thinking about our long-distance friendship recently, and I've come to the following: There's a saying that time and space heals all relationship wounds, but I believe they do more than just that. Time and space fix and strengthen those damages to prevent them from ever reopening.

I just really miss you. And I just really miss us. It hurts, but I also just really love you. And I just really love us.

So perhaps our destiny is to reach a point in our lives at which we're able to find each other again, within a good space at the right time.

For although we're now leading different lives, I like to think that the collective path we once trekked along together still exists just as we left it, even if it has become a tad overgrown by dense foliage. And that's totally alright, because when our paths do divulge and we see each other again, you'll be right there with me to hack away that unruly brush with our super awesome, super sleek, super lightweight customized machetes—both with handles encrusted in heart-shaped plastic rhinestones and each complete with a homemade friendship bracelet encircled at the end of the handle's loop—and continue our lifelong adventure together as we once did all those years ago, even if only for another brief moment before we again part ways.

I'm trying not to think of all this as a fantasy-and-a-half, but I love you enough to understand that the time and space between us is, well, just time and space, and nothing more. After all, you once messaged me to view our time apart as a chance to see, experience and appreciate what the universe has to offer, for it'll make our reunion all the more meaningful when we supplement it with our own unique, fantastical tales of universal goodness.

In messaging me that, I've realized you're right: The universe is beautiful. It's beautiful because we both happen to exist at the same time in the same universe. It's beautiful because we're lucky enough to have found each other within that sliver of time during which we're here in this world.

So Best Friend, before I conclude your birthday letter, I'd like to add to my wish of us reuniting, if I may:

I wish that while I can't physically be with you to commemorate the last of your glory days as a true teenager, you'll instead find it in your heart to celebrate the occasion with those around you.

I wish that as you continue along your own life path, you'll never feel lonely looking for yourself out there.

And finally, I wish that one day you'll be able to properly come home, if not to your family, then to me.

I hope you have a wonderful 19th birthday.

I love you to the end of the universe and back.

I'll see you soon, okay?

Love always,


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To My Best Friend Who Doesn’t Know How Strong She Is

Always better together.

To the one I know I will always have by my side,

First off, thank you. Thanks for dealing with all my shit: my mess, drama, tears, and weirdness. There are so many reasons why you are my best friend; you are funny, amazing, kind and unbelievably supportive. I am beyond lucky to have someone that gets me and has been there with me through the best of times and the worst of times.

You are strong

Life is difficult; I think we have both realized that by now. Whether you believe me or not you are kicking everything being thrown at you in the ass. You have been through everything and more and have always come out of it a stronger, and better person. You are never alone and you know that; we have been there for each other for years and that will never end.

You are special

I have never met anyone with a bigger heart than you; you sympathize with anyone that comes to you for advice. You take things to heart and look at the world in a unique and beautiful way. You appreciate the little things in life, watching Dance movies with your mom, a late night snack at Taco Bell, driving with the top down and dancing like no one is watching.

You are beautiful

You are way more beautiful than you think. You’ve got softness to you that is calming, a smile that is contagious, and a gorgeous girl with so much to offer. You are filled with love and compassion, an amazing writer, dancer and overall an amazing and beautiful person.

You can get through anything

I know you are going through a hard time right now, but look at how far you’ve come. You have gone through way worse and you will get through this just like you have in the past. You will become even more powerful than you already are. You are experienced and that’s part of what makes me love you so much. We have gone through a lot together and we know that whatever life throws at us we can handle it.

I am always here

Your hardship is my hardship, but keep your head up high just like I know you can. You have so much love in your life, from your family, your friends and me. I love you, I have never had a friend like you and I am so grateful every day because of it. You are going to get through this. You are going to get through it because you are, powerful, you are beautiful and you are strong.

~Written with love and appreciation for the most amazing friend I could ever ask for~

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Why I Will Never Choose A Boy Over My Best Friend

I have made this mistake in my past and it turned around to bite me in the ass.


In the past, every time that I would get a new boyfriend, I put my best friend on the back burner. In my head, it seemed logical.

I was more than wrong.

Here's how it would play out every time: I would date a boy, think I was in love, but then have no one to talk about it to, because I ditched my best friend too many times and now she wants nothing to do with me. That is understandable.

My relationship with that boy would go through a rough patch and I would have to bottle it all up, because I ditched my best friend too many times and now she wants nothing to do with me.

That is understandable. Finally, my relationship would end and I would be left with no one, but myself.

Your best friend is your best friend for a reason. It seems as if putting a significant other over your friend is occurring quite frequently these days. Not just with girls who are friends, but also boys who are friends. But since I am 100% female, this is what I think:

Your best friend hypes you up into catching feelings for a new boy.

Your best friend is there for you when you are your new boy get in your first fight.

Your best friend tells you when to stop going back to a certain boy.

Your best friend listens when you don't listen and go back to a certain boy.

You best friend holds your hand when you're crying over the dumbest shit.

Your best friend answers your FaceTime calls when you get back from a date you didn't tell her about.

Your best friend forfeits sleep to listen to your "I am tired of being treated like shit" rants.

Your best friend has been there way longer than a boy that you just met.

Stop treating her as if it's the other way around. Thank her for never giving up in your "I am done with him" scenarios. Thank her for loving you no matter what you choose to do. Apologize to her for you making her a second option/choice.

Sure, this article would be different if you had been with the same guy for years. I know there comes a point in life where you need to focus on your intimate relationships and start your life. But that is not what this article is about.

Your best friend will always be there for you when a boy cannot be.

You need to realize that before the most important person in your life is gone.

"How do you lose a woman?" -Mr. Mosby

"You forget to cherish her.." -Cody, from Suite Life of Zack and Cody

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