I Wrote A Letter To My High School Best Friend, Who I Haven’t Seen Since Forever Ago

I Wrote A Letter To My High School Best Friend, Who I Haven’t Seen Since Forever Ago

Even when they're eons away from each other, there's this special bond between best friends that even the universe can't explain.


Dear Best Friend,

A while back, I messaged you about my concerns over your birthday present for this year. Since you'll have literally just turned 19 years old as of this letter's publication date, I wanted the "birthday card" aspect of your gift to be a bit unconventional. After all, this is your last year during which you can live out any residual teenage angst and it'll still be seen as valid, so I figured I might as well make your birthday message all the more distinct (and public).

So with that being written, happy birthday. May your 19th treat you well, and may all your wishes (birthday-candle-style or not) come true.

And hey, I know it's not my birthday—and this totally isn't a birthday wish since slapping on that label would prevent whatever I desire from becoming true—but my greatest wish is for us to see each other again.

We haven't been in the same physical space since our high school graduation last June. Just like the rest of our classmates, that unified path we spent the past four years traveling upon diverged, and we parted ways to pursue individual journeys.

For them, that's totally okay, as those same classmates see each other during breaks and holidays, weekends and days off. But for you and I, you can't exactly come home, and neither of us can exactly travel to meet each other. And when there's a forced estrangement (especially from a viable distance of only a few geographical states), it's easy to be blindsided by the injustice of the situation, and blame the universe for our misfortune.

However, I've been thinking about our long-distance friendship recently, and I've come to the following: There's a saying that time and space heals all relationship wounds, but I believe they do more than just that. Time and space fix and strengthen those damages to prevent them from ever reopening.

I just really miss you. And I just really miss us. It hurts, but I also just really love you. And I just really love us.

So perhaps our destiny is to reach a point in our lives at which we're able to find each other again, within a good space at the right time.

For although we're now leading different lives, I like to think that the collective path we once trekked along together still exists just as we left it, even if it has become a tad overgrown by dense foliage. And that's totally alright, because when our paths do divulge and we see each other again, you'll be right there with me to hack away that unruly brush with our super awesome, super sleek, super lightweight customized machetes—both with handles encrusted in heart-shaped plastic rhinestones and each complete with a homemade friendship bracelet encircled at the end of the handle's loop—and continue our lifelong adventure together as we once did all those years ago, even if only for another brief moment before we again part ways.

I'm trying not to think of all this as a fantasy-and-a-half, but I love you enough to understand that the time and space between us is, well, just time and space, and nothing more. After all, you once messaged me to view our time apart as a chance to see, experience and appreciate what the universe has to offer, for it'll make our reunion all the more meaningful when we supplement it with our own unique, fantastical tales of universal goodness.

In messaging me that, I've realized you're right: The universe is beautiful. It's beautiful because we both happen to exist at the same time in the same universe. It's beautiful because we're lucky enough to have found each other within that sliver of time during which we're here in this world.

So Best Friend, before I conclude your birthday letter, I'd like to add to my wish of us reuniting, if I may:

I wish that while I can't physically be with you to commemorate the last of your glory days as a true teenager, you'll instead find it in your heart to celebrate the occasion with those around you.

I wish that as you continue along your own life path, you'll never feel lonely looking for yourself out there.

And finally, I wish that one day you'll be able to properly come home, if not to your family, then to me.

I hope you have a wonderful 19th birthday.

I love you to the end of the universe and back.

I'll see you soon, okay?

Love always,


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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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To The Friends I Can Be Myself Around

An open letter to those whose friendships I value more than a pint of Graeter's ice cream.


There are those friends I love and care about deeply, but cannot be my true self around. Someone asked me before, "How can you call someone your friend if you can't be yourself around them?" I don't change myself to accommodate them or act in a manner unnatural to me — I just don't show them some sides of me. Growing up, some of my friends did not understand how I could ever want to write books or how I could love reading so much, so I learned at a young age to keep that side of me to myself. And yes, those are important parts of me, but my friends who did not understand it did accept it, and that was enough. Some thought it bizarre and humorous I love Celtic instrumental music or said some hurtful things about what I love that I realize now wasn't okay. But at the end of the day, there is love between us and common ground where I just remember to not mention some things.

Then there are those friends I can be my complete, unapologetic, authentic self with. The ones who support and encourage you to chase your dreams, even if they don't understand them. The ones who you can cry to about something silly, say whatever is on your mind without regretting it, and who thinks it's preposterous you refuse to fart in their presence because your other friends would give you crap for it (pun intended, and also true story). The ones you stay up late into the night talking about philosophy and crushes until your voices begin to rasp. The ones who are the closest to your heart.

I want to say thank you to these brilliant, caring, beautiful friends, new and old. Your love and support has helped me at all times, through the good and the bad and the boring. I only hope to be the same friend to you, to be open-minded, supportive, and enthusiastic. I believe it is important to cultivate a wide range of friends and support, but many of the friendships I mention earlier will most likely only be kept alive through memories; ours will last many lives to come. I look forward to growing old with you all and growing together.

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