Hello friend,

Have you ever been in a room full of people that were laughing and having a great time, but you felt like you are alone? Have you ever felt like you just cannot speak to anyone without the fear of judgement?

You felt like all of their eyes were on you and all of the laughter was about you. There was probably an overwhelming amount of emotions that flooded your mind and seemed to encompass your entire body making you feel vulnerable and more vulnerable than before.

You are not alone.

Feeling alone and vulnerable is something that is extremely common especially in the life of an introvert. I cannot tell you how many times I have walked into a room full of people and instantly felt alone and overwhelmed with fear. Why do we feel this way? Why are our minds so overwhelmed with the idea of talking to new people? Why do we have this constant and innate fear of being judged by people we do not know?

I wish that I had the answers to these questions, but I do not.

I do know that a lot of people have this issue! Feeling alone in a crowded room is a very common thing and we should not feel ashamed of it. It takes getting used to and a large amount of confidence to approach someone and just talk. When we begin to realize that the majority of people are feeling some amount of anxiety in these situations, it can make them easier to deal with. A simple conversation with someone can lead to a relationship or business connection that can last a lifetime. You never know when you will have something in common with someone.

Being afraid of judgement is natural. It is something that we all face at some point in our lives but when we become comfortable with ourselves, we can begin to allow others to become comfortable with who we are. Never be afraid to be who you are in life; authenticity is one of the most beautiful and respected traits that anyone can have.

My point is that when you are feeling alone in a crowded room, take a chance on talking to someone. Look for someone that may also be standing off to the side or approach a small group that is talking about something you are interested in. Be yourself and ask questions. Do not hesitate to start a conversation with someone due to the fear of judgement; someone’s opinion of you does not define who you are. You were wonderfully made and nobody can judge you because we are all flawed in different areas.

All in all, take a chance. If we all started initiating conversations with others and taking the time to listen and learn about others, feeling alone in a crowded room would almost be eradicated. You have the power to change this feeling; just believe in yourself and take a deep breath!