I want to start off by saying we've all been there. Maybe not exactly your circumstances, maybe not the same kind of pain or sadness, but most people on this planet have been through some hard times. While sometimes this doesn't help to hear, it's important because you can't live your life feeling bad for yourself. Take a day or maybe a week and feel your emotions, ride them out, but don't let this rough patch in your life define you.
The most important thing I can think of is that you need to get out of your house or apartment once a day. If it's an hour, fine. If you can only handle fifteen minutes one day then don't sweat it, but get out and do it. Your activity doesn't have to be earth shattering, it could simply be going to the grocery store or watching a movie. Bonus points for the movie idea because it gets you out of the house for a while AND you don't have to really talk to anyone. This is so important because you can't just let yourself curl up into a ball and be sad every day, it's just not healthy. Even if you fake smile at your cashier at the grocery store this has the potential to boost your mood, because every time you smile you get a natural release of dopamine.
Another important thing to point out is that exercise can also really help. Make it a point to go to the gym every day and release that built up tension and stress. It may be hard to force yourself to go the first time or two, but after that, I'm sure you'll be excited to throw on your workout clothes and do some great work for your body. If the gym isn't your style, find other ways to get moving. Go to a yoga class, or pilates, or dance, or run (or not because that sounds awful just typing it). Anyway, you do you when it comes to working out, but get moving because it helps a lot more than just your quads.
Last but definitely not least, lean on your friends, that's what they are for. You know you've been up late on the phone with your friend talking them through hard times, or have been a shoulder to cry on, but now it's your turn. Don't feel guilty about it, and don't feel like it's going to make them leave you, because if it actually does then you know it's time to forget about that friendship. Go get coffee or have them come over if it's something you don't want to discuss in private, but talk to someone about what is getting you down. We are social beings and talking a problem out with a friend can be a great stress reliever because while you may think you've thought of every solution, someone with different experiences is bound to have a new thought on your issue.
To finish up, all I have to say is good luck. Sometimes life honestly sucks and there is nothing you can do to change your situation. Sometimes it is just something you have to live with and work toward being happy with. Either way, I'm sure you can get through it, every day gets easier.
Sincerely,
Someone Who Gets It
