A Letter To My Random Roommate Turned Best Friend

A Letter To My Random Roommate Turned Best Friend

Some friends become roommates. Some roommates become friends.

So here we are as college seniors. Whoa, where did the time go?! It feels like yesterday you walked into Honors 251 and we met for the first time. That sounds like the start of a love story. It kind of is! First off, I just want to thank you for being the best roommate I have ever had, for all the laughs, insides jokes, and boy advice a girl could ask for. The craziest part is that we went from not knowing each other to being so close. We got even closer after we had to part our roommate-ing ways. I am not sure about random roommate statistics, but I feel like we beat the odds. We are the exception, not the rule.

I just keep thinking about the fact that we were randomly matched up and such the perfect pair. I didn’t think we had a lot in common, but that didn’t stop me from getting to know you or wanting to do so. I think us both having relationships with Christ really helped as well. I have no doubt that God gave me you for a reason. I guess all I am really trying to say is THANK YOU!

Thank you for being the best study buddy. Whether it was studying in our dorm, in a random building, or in the basement of library in the really hot room or when we didn’t see sunlight for a whole day, we always could be productive. Maybe there was the time we played the cup song all afternoon... Thanks for also taking breaks with me, whether it was ice skating, going to buy food, or going to a soccer game. Thanks for helping me laugh when times got tough. You got to see everything I ruined my freshman year: the hair dryer, the sweater, the jacket…just to name a few. You made me laugh about it instead of allowing me to cry over something so stupid. But thanks for crying with me over more important things. I will leave that one alone. Thank you for giving me and being a part of some of my best college stories: medication, appendages in the mail, all of our random lunch companions, and chasing after the college shuttle in the freezing cold. Thank you for going on more dates than I ever have with boys in real life. Thank you for laughing with me every day, especially at not funny things or very funny things. Thank you for being a person that made me feel okay that my freshman year wasn’t that great. Thank you for being my first college friend and not one of those ones that goes away (remember Matt from orientation?) You’re the real MVP. And thank you for being my roommate after we couldn’t be roommates. That one time you came and ate pizza with me because boys are lame was the best!

The truth is my college experience was far from typical, but you helped make it so amazing! You made my transition to college easy. You made my freshman year unforgettable. There is no one I would have rather ate ice cream with three times a day and gained the freshman 15 with.

When it comes down to it, I would have never imagined a random rooming situation could turn into something so wonderful! There are so many times as a senior I wish I could go back to the days of eating chicken nuggets and mac n cheese while watching 8 Simple Rules with you. Seriously, thank you for everything! I couldn’t have done it without you!


Your Random Roommate Turned Best Friend

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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Shockingly, There Is Strength In Being Weak

Abandon the idea that you do not deserve to be taken care of. You do!


The one challenge in having a brave face, is others never considering there are moments you may not be. It is a beautiful yet complicated gift to be able to provide comfort to others. To be the person your friends and family turns to in times of crisis. Just remember that those who offer help, may need help sometimes too.

Lately, I have been struggling. Having flares of anxiety and repetition of old behaviors, that I am not so proud of. I am so kind to others facing struggle, but I have yet to understand the importance of offering myself the same respect.

Some may suggest therapy, seeking out health professionals. For many that may work. And if that is a tool that works for you, power to you! If you feel comfortable with the process pursue it! For myself, I am not. And I will tell you why.

I have yet to swallow my pride. To understand that the strong fail too. Oh how I despise failing. And I think fear of failure comes from my own personal expectations, to hold it "together". Because if I fall, who will those closest to me lean on? I have strength, therefore if I fall, we all do.

That may sound like an idiotic sentence, and while forming the words I recognize how false a statement it is. However, this is a deep rooted issue for many individuals. And for me this is something I struggle with. Allowing for the world to see my weakness.

One of my best friends, who has recently opened my eyes said to me, " To have the courage to ask for help is not you showing weakness, but strength." It takes a great deal of strength to open up. I find myself suppressing my emotions. Meanwhile, I write weekly about confronting your past. Yet I struggle in the practice I preach.

That is not weakness, yet it is a glimpse of reality. I am thankful for my friend, who noticed a shift within me, to speak up and make sure that I recognize that I am falling. Sometimes you cannot only rely on yourself, and you need to admit that you need help.

My greatest joy is helping others but again I cannot find the generosity in my heart to offer it to myself. I was wrestling with the "why". Why I cannot allow for others to worry about me, why I simply do not want other people to worry about me. It is because that is my job. Then I realized, being a brave individual goes hand in hand with wanting control.

I struggle with allowing for myself to be a mess. To admit when I have lost control of who I am. The issue with a brave face? You rarely let others see you cave. So those around you assume you are stedfast, strong, in control, without a shadow of a doubt ; okay.

I understand not each individual is intuitive. That people miss the signs of when others emotional well beings are compromised. I am grateful for my best friend and her intuitive mind and heart. Recognizing that I have not been completely myself as of late, just an extension.

For those of you , who feel you lack the skill. Those who are not capable of reading between the lines, noticing lack of bravery, please I advise you to check up on the ones who you are usually so sure that are "okay". A simple, "how are you", goes a very long way.

I know I was hoping all day that someone would recognize I was not so myself and ask the question. Thankfully, my best friend did. It is nice to know someone sees you. To understand that you're human, and to remind you that you're human. The brave are allowed to fall.

I note that this also means, the brave need to allow for transparency. Because when you allow for others to see your struggle, it is easier for them to then offer a helping hand. Break your silence, even if it proves that you are not always brave.

Each individual has strengths and weaknesses. My weakness? Being weak. Allowing for myself to strip off the mask of " I am okay", and revealing the " I am not okay".

Again, to be brave is in fact a complicated gift. Being emotionally strong for others, does not mean you do not deserve to also be taken care of. To be offered the same respect of healing and love. Leave behind the idea that those managing others issues, means they can manage their own. Even the bravest of walls can come falling down.

It does not take long to ask a three worded question; " How are you?" I hope those are brave enough to answer honestly.

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