Break-ups are always terrible, but what's even worse is watching a friend go through one. Watching your attractive, talented, amazing friend lose confidence because they think they weren't good enough is nothing less than terrible. Sometimes it's difficult to tell them it's going to be okay, and you just wish you had the right words at the right time. So this letter is for people whose hearts have been broken, and their friends whose hearts are hurting because of it.
Dear Friend,
When you first came to me with tears streaming down your face, I couldn't think of what to say. I held you and as you cried I tried to form the words that would instantly make you feel better. Of course, those words don't exist. So now as you try and pick up the pieces of your broken heart, let me tell you the things I couldn't find words for at the time.
Take your time to heal. It's okay to cry, because I will always be there to wipe away your tears. I won't tell you that it will get better, because I know that's not what you want to hear. I will simply let you feel the emotions you have every right to feel, and be there for support when you're ready. I don't care how long it takes. I will never be annoyed when you call me up at 1 a.m. because you can't sleep, because I will already be on my way with ice cream and a hug. So don't be afraid. I'm here for you.
You don't have to justify your feelings. Don't think you need to try and explain what's happening, because I've been there before. If it helps to talk it out, please do. But you don't need to say a word. Your feelings will always be valid to me. And don't you dare apologize to me. I want to be here for you because I care, and seeing you hurt causes me pain as well. So don't say sorry as if you're inconveniencing me. There's nothing I would rather do than be there for you.
Don't let this destroy you. Losing someone you love can be devastating, but please don't lose yourself as well. I know how hard it is to love yourself in a time like this. You want to blame yourself, to find little regrets to cling on to. But know that none of this was your fault. Some things don't work out, and that's okay. You are still just as wonderful as you ever were. And until you realize that, you can be sure I will be here to love you enough for the both of us.
I'm not going to lie, you're going to hurt for a while. These things don't just go away. But remember what I have told you, and try your hardest to move on. I hope my words bring you a bit of comfort.
With Love,
A Friend
