I'm going to preface this by saying that it comes from a place of me being disgusted by the fact that some people think they are better than others for any given reason. But I've seen a strange thing happen my entire life revolving around the concept of virginity. Yes, I'm talking about whether or not you've had sex.

What I find so strange is that there are some people who think they are better than others for not having sex or waiting until they find The One or are married to have sex. Before you accuse me of being against people wanting to remain virgins, I have absolutely no problem with that. You do what makes you happy and it is none of my business what you decide to do with your body. On the other side of the argument, there are also people who have sex who think themselves to be better than those who haven't and I also don't find the point or merit in this.

Opinion time: There isn't anything inherently magical about being a virgin just as there isn't anything inherently magical about having sex.

Both deciding to have sex and deciding to remain a virgin are both empowering things because you are deciding what you want to do with your own body. But it isn't our place to decide what is or isn't empowering for other women. You aren't in any way better than anyone else because of what you decide to do with your body.

We see this in other aspects of what women choose to do as well, such as the subject of body hair. I've seen many women shame those who don't shave ("That's so gross and unclean!") and women who don't shave shaming the women who do ("It's a patriarchal standard set by society so stop giving in to it!"). Regardless of the patriarchal start to women shaving or the concept of virginity, it is still a woman's choice whether or not she decides to shave and we shouldn't be shaming each other for those decisions.

I'm not trying to say that we need to stop talking about sex. I actually love talking about sex! I think the more we talk about sex and the more comfortable we are with it (because most people are doing it, so we should be comfortable with it), the more likely we are going to get comprehensive sex education in schools, fewer unplanned pregnancies, and more awareness and prevention of STD's.

I am not in any way, shape, or form trying to dictate or pass judgment on what you are doing with your body; that is for you to decide and the only other person who's business your sex life is is the person or people you are choosing to have sex with. But I think we should start being more mature about how we pass judgment on other's sex lives because, frankly, it isn't anyone's business unless you choose to share it and make it someone's business.