The newest gossip on the street tells a compelling case of the long existing sexism and biphobia problem—not only in Hollywood, but also in our society.
A quick recap of what’s going on in case you haven’t heard: after 15 months of marriage, Depp and Heard have officially filed for divorce, with Heard accusing Depp of domestic violence. Heard has been granted a restraining order against Depp by judge. Many claim that this is an attempt on Heard’s side to get a big divorce settlement.
Hollywood was quick to take sides. Depp’s exes were fast to voice their support for the 53-year-old actor and father on Twitter and other social media platforms. The public wasn’t slow to jump to judgement, either. Many accused Heard of lying and defended Depp’s honor.
Now, everyone has the right to choose to believe or not believe in Heard’s case, but what’s with all the bullshit reasons and excuses the public has come up with?
First of all, quit with the attacks on Amber Heard’s LGBTQ+ identity.
Heard’s sexuality has been brought to the center of this discussion with no compelling reasons.
Amber Heard first came out in 2010. Blonde, Texas-born Heard has been defying stereotypes since she was very first introduced to the public eye. Not only a pronounced atheist, Heard has shown incredible support and advocacy for the LGBTQ+ community.
However, Heard’s bisexuality has been shed a negative light ever since news broke on the assault case. Heard’s social circle is being more closely examined than ever—including her intimate associations with fellow LGBTQ+ identifying stars and her previous engagement to sexually-fluid artist and photographer Tasya van Ree.
Media repeatedly bring up headlines such as:
"Amber Heard's 'bisexual past': Lurid coverage of Johnny Depp abuse allegations shows how deep bisexual backlash can go."
"Source blames Amber Heard’s ‘bisexual tendencies’ for breakdown of marriage to Johnny Depp”
and "Johnny Depp: Amber Heard’s Lesbian Friends Put Marriage ‘On the Rocks’”
Um, excuse me? Let’s forget for one second how hilariously ignorant these headlines are (seriously, “bisexual tendencies?”)—a woman has allegedly been violently attacked but somehow her sexuality is more relevant?
Of course—because it is a common misconceptions that bisexual individuals are fickle, disloyal and untrustworthy.
Hollywood—no room for homophobia? It’s definitely not over biphobia yet.
Allow me to quote Evan Rachel Wood’s retweet to end my first point: “What does Amber being bisexual and having lesbian friends have to do with anything? F*** the media seriously.”
Second of all, a lack of abusive history does not excuse a man’s present violent behaviors.
It doesn’t automatically prove that alleged victim is lying, and it should by no means render the alleged assailant innocent.
Vanessa Paradis, whose letter TMZ uncovered, calls Depp "a sensitive, loving and loved person.” Winona Ryder and Depp’s ex-wife, Lori Anne Allison, both voiced their “shock," saying Deep was never physical with them.
The argument of innocent until proven guilty rings the bells of righteousness. More than often we see this argument being used as an excuse. The public are eager to excuse and even protect people such as Darren Wilson and Bill Cosby.
Meanwhile, we see such “benefit of the doubt” not extended equally to people such as Beverly Johnson, Sara Reedy and in this case, Amber Heard. Who is to convict Heard of making false allegations until she’s been proven to lie for a fact?
Actually, let’s take a minute and thank Ryder and Allison for only speaking for themselves. Paradis, on the contrary, went as far as calling Heard’s allegations “outrageous” and Heard a “liar.”
Shame on Vanessa Paradis, who believes it’s her obligation to exonerate Depp and to quickly dismiss abuse claims of the possible victim. Accusations need evidence to be backed up. Heard has provided physical evidence to court, and it's up to the judge to settle a legal matter. Acquittal also needs evidence, but words from former romantic partners lack substance to fully support the case.
It is alarming that Depp has been receiving outpouring support, whereas Amber Heard only has a few advocates.
Women with minority, sexual identities need advocates. Bisexual women need advocates. Women, in general, in this society, in this day and age, still need advocates.
Everyone is Johnny Depp’s biggest fan, and everyone is giving him the benefit of the doubt. You don’t have to be Amber Heard’s biggest fan to give this woman standing up against the public opinion an equal benefit of the doubt.