My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now and since our three year anniversary, we've been getting asked the infamous question, "When's the wedding". Now a little backstory, the boyfriend and I started dating when we were about 16/17-years-old. So three years later makes us 19/20-years-old. Now we're 23/24 and now we're being asked that question even more. I've always answered them with maybe after I graduate from the university, now that I am less than a month away from graduation I see myself changing my answer to that question.

When I was a child I always pictured myself getting married at the age of 21, as I got older I saw that my idea of getting married at that age was kind of childish. Growing up, I learned that marriage is not that simple. It's not just the sweet ceremony and a kick-ass reception, marriage is so much more. It's building a home, with a home comes bills and responsibilities. And then there are the possibilities of kids. Kids require so much attention, time, and love. Getting married while in college seems like it would be such a hassle. To deal with homework, projects, responsibilities of maintaining a home, and the idea of kids popping up. Just the thought of this stresses me out. I want to be able to give my all and attention to my family and home when the time comes. I don't want them to be like my second job I have to deal with when I'm done with my classes for the day.

I prefer just to take my time, enjoy college and all its experience. My boyfriend and I have talked about it plenty of times. And we decided to just wait until I was done with school and we were both secure with our career jobs. That way we can focus on saving money to start building our home and to have our wedding. We just think waiting to get married is the right idea now.

Even after explaining all of this to friends, family, and sometimes even our pastors; we always get hit with "I don't understand if you love each other so much, why can't you just get married?" The thing is we do love each other so much that we are giving each other the chance to grow as individuals together, we are giving each other the opportunity to find jobs that we actually love and not have to work at to survive, we are giving each other the time to actually enjoy time as a single couple together.

Now, don't get me wrong I love the idea of getting married. I'm the girl who's been planning her wedding since middle school and then started actually to take it seriously when I met my boyfriend. I have plenty of Pinterest boards filled with wedding dresses, themes, locations, and the best part the cake. And this is something I look forward to, but even though I can't wait to get married. I can actually wait, and I know my wedding and marriage will be great.