As I grow older and experience different life events, I have become more accepting of others. Don't get me wrong, I am only human and I promise I don't bleed green alien slime, but I have grown an appreciation for what people go through, and I really try to place myself in the shoes of others. We all make initial judgements of each other because we are flawed creatures. Once we get to know the other person our mindset begins to change based on our experiences with them. But you cannot possibly know what someone else is going through 24 hours a day seven days a week. That is where our biased judgements of each other come into play and where feelings get hurt. You may think you know the other person to a T, but you could be totally wrong.
People go through life in different waves. By that, I mean we travel our own paths and everyone is different. We might end up on the same path at a certain point in time, but we will deviate from that based on our likes and dislikes. Again, we are only human and shouldn't be judged based on what we think the norm is. What even is the norm? There is no right or wrong answer because everyone will say something different. We are so quick to judge one another simply for the fact that they don't like the same thing as we do. That can damage a friendship or hurt the other person's feelings.
Behind closed doors we all have our own perception of ourselves and who we are as a person. We are our true selves in this state. Unless we share who we are behind closed doors, others may not know what is really going on in our lives. It makes me sad to see judgements being made based upon what we only see on the surface. Think about what the other person may be feeling or going through before you make a rash decision about someone.
In the end, all that separates us are the people who will judge every move you make and the people who try to look at it from a different angle and be accepting no matter the situation. Those are the people you want in your circle. The mean people of the world will learn one day. They will develop their understanding, and if not then so be it. Being true to yourself and knowing exactly who you are as a person is extremely important. Not letting the bullies of the world phase you will help keep your sanity. We all want to be accepted by our peers in some way or another. Taking a step back and imagining how the other person may feel is a great start to ending the judgements.
