Why are we all so afraid of letting people go? Instead, we lead them on to believe we are something we aren't and in the mix of it all we not only hurt ourselves but the people we think we love. Let me tell you, it is not love if they are willing to share. It is not love if they are willing to hurt you. It's not love if they lie to you over and over. It's not love if they accuse you of things you aren't doing, yet they are. We need to learn to look at who people really are rather than being blinded by the thought of who they could be.
Love is blind, it's most certainly true. However, it doesn't need to be. If we all learned how to speak our minds, show our hearts, and let people go things would be so much easier. Yet, we would rather be sneaky and unfaithful than honest. In the end, it would hurt a lot less if we opened our mind and opened our hearts.
Lets just make this clear, you are not a bad person for not wanting someone anymore. Truthfully, that's what is supposed to happen until you meet the person you're supposed to be with forever. You are not a bad person for wanting to move on, see other people, or just see the world. Yes, mistakes happen and sometimes you question what you want, make an error, and get caught. We get scared, we act foolish, this is part of life. However, if this "mistake" becomes a regular problem, it is now a choice. These mistakes do not define you, nor do they make you a bad person, but you can't expect the one who loves you loyally, endlessly and unconditionally to continue forgiving the same mistakes.
So let them go. Free them from you. Allow them to move on, go out, and be with someone new if they aren't the person for you. Throughout life we are meant to meet many, many people. However, we are only meant to fall in love with one. If you know the one you're with isn't right for you, why are you staying? Love is not supposed to hurt more than heal. Love is not supposed to be toxic. If you must fight for their love, they aren't the one. Sure, it will hurt to let them go, but it hurts either way, right?
