Personally, I have noticed that most of the time that I spent unhappy is the time that I spend worrying about everything around me. Is everyone around me happy? Is my family doing good? Am I doing everything that I need to be doing?
In reality, there is no rule book of life. There are no limitations on how much we are supposed to be doing in a day, or if we are in the right place at this exact point in our lives. If there was, life would be a lot simpler. For years I was always wondering what more I could be doing to be successful in life, or to be on top of things. Honestly, it felt like the world was falling on my shoulders. I began to wonder what would make my life easier, and how I could feel more free while still being able to accomplish everything that I want in life. We all have goals and aspirations, and things we want to do, and people that we want to meet, and places that we want to go. I believe there is a way to do all of these things, without feeling the weight of the world.
I constantly hear people saying life is short, live in the moment, among all other cheesy quotes we are told. As if hearing one of those quotes will solve one of those problems. For example, if you get broken up with or cheated on or you are having relationship issues it is not going to fix how you're feeling by someone telling you it is going to be okay! If words could fix problems... well, we would all be talking a lot more. Not that I am a whiz on life, but every day should be one you look forward to.
Advice: Let go of what you can't control, focus on what you can.
The world is a crazy, crazy place. Things happen everyday that we can't understand, and if we try to understand it we could be sitting around all day. From world issues, to personal issues and everything in between I would say more than half are things we can't control.
If you don't know what I mean, or if this is unrelatable let me put it into perspective.
Some things we can't control:
1. What others say.
2. What others do.
3. What others feel.
4. What others think.
5. The economy.
6. Traffic.
7. Tragedy.
8. Growing old.
9. The weather.
10. Physical/mental limitations.
11. The future.
12. The past.
13. Getting a disease.
14. What someone else thinks of you.
15. Most of life.
When someone says something stupid, let it go. Unless you have full control of a situation, the only thing you can do is try your best to give advice and do what you can to help. But letting it affect your everyday life, is not the way to go.
The world is changing everyday whether we want to grasp that or not. Stay true to who you are, let your true colors shine.
DON'T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK. Don't try to change what you can't, and live and love to the fullest.
Things you can control:
1. What you want to do with your life
2. Who you surround yourself with
3. Being in a healthy relationship
4. How many times you smile today
5. How creative you are
6. Being a leader, or a follower
7. How hard you judge others
8. How strong you are, and how quickly you get back up again
9. How much you gossip
10. How often you let others know you care for them
11. Whether you believe what other people say about you
Don't take life to seriously, let go of what is out of our own hands.
Most importantly, don't apologize for who you are and what you want.
