Lessons On Love From Meredith And Derek

Lessons On Love From Meredith And Derek

Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a choice.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past 10+ years, you know who Meredith Grey and Derek Shepard a.k.a. McDreamy are. Dr. Meredith Grey is the focal point of the medical based TV series Grey's Anatomy, and Dr. Derek Shepard is her love interest for the majority of the series. Anyone who follows the show knows that these two have an epic love story, that all starts with just another girl in a bar.

1. Not everything will be perfect

Okay, seriously from the first encounter between these two, it’s obvious that they have chemistry, but in the end of their one night stand, Meredith can’t even remember his name. After she discovers she has been hired by the same hospital he is a resident at, things get even more interesting. As the show (and their romance) continues, McDreamy shows that he can also be a McIdiot when his wife shows up before he can tell Meredith of his marital status. After a few episodes of fights, tears, and a ton of tequila, viewers realize that this is only the beginning of a long, long relationship with "MerDer." No matter what happens and who gets involved, if it’s meant to be it will find a way.

2. Put Yourself Out There

These two are the epitome of wearing your heart on your sleeve. Although Meredith is all “dark and twisty”, she eventually comes clean with her feelings for Derek and begs him to reconsider their relationship. Yes, that’s right; I’m referring to the well-known “Pick me. Choose me. Love me.” scene. Meredith is a very headstrong and independent character, but when it comes to Derek, she shows us that it’s okay to put everything right out on the table sometimes. At least nothing can get lost in translation.

3. Go big or go home

When it comes to MerDer, no shortcuts are taken. They’ve done it all from designing a house together to actually creating a candle-lit outline of the blueprints of the house, complete with a speech about the incredible life they could build together, to an elaborate proposal in an elevator with brain scans lining the walls. Basically, love makes people do crazy, beautiful, romantic things. So embrace it, and when it comes to your partner, there is no length that shouldn’t be gone to for their happiness. I mean come on, when Meredith couldn’t get pregnant, Derek found a beautiful baby girl to adopt that she immediately fell in love with. It doesn’t get much more real than that.

4. Do your own thing

When this whole relationship started, nobody approved. Meredith’s friends thought it was a terrible idea, and so did the hospital staff, including Chief Weber. These two show that no matter what others say, if you love someone, be with them, it’s as simple as that. Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a choice. In order for a relationship to work, you have to put effort into it. Don’t use other people’s stereotypes of a relationship or commitment to dictate your own. Meredith and Derek were married via post it for two seasons before they legally tied the knot at city hall. To them, they didn’t need a legal piece of paper to tell them they belonged to each other; they only needed each other’s personalized commitment.

5. Sometimes, sacrifice is necessary

The ultimate sacrifice is giving your life for another. In season 6, Meredith offers herself to a gunman who is pointing his weapon at her husband’s head while he is on the operating table. She nearly convinces the shooter to kill her instead, but luckily better things prevailed. Derek even quits a job at the White House to be closer to his family and to help Meredith raise their children on more than just a part time basis. Often times, if you only worry about bettering yourself, you will hurt your relationship. A relationship consists of two people, and although sometimes it may call for sacrifice, it is better to pass up on something that can hurt your loved one instead of risking losing it all.

It’s nearly impossible to watch Grey’s Anatomy and not become engrossed in the drama, scandal and lust of the hospital. Even when they were unsteady, Meredith and Derek were always something that was a given in the show. It made us all fall in love with McDreamy, in a really, really big, pretend-to-like-your-taste-in-music, let-you-eat-the-last-piece-of-cheesecake, hold-a-radio-over-my-head-outside-your-window, unfortunate way that makes us hate you..love you kind of way.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

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This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.


Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.


Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.



You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.


You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.


The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers


You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.


The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"


The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution


This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi


Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters


You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs


Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.



Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets


Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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