Every person has their own story, and every relationship and breakup has their own set of words as well. I like to look at mistakes, regrets, and experiences as lessons. I believe every person we meet changes our lives whether we see it or not. Also, I'm not just talking about dating, boyfriend kind of relationships. It can be any kind of relationship. So here's some advice that I've learned in my past experiences.
1. You don't always see that someone is bad for you.
Toxicity. You might be best friends or dating someone who you are so infatuated with, but it's important to be cautious of these exhilarating relationships. Sometimes they aren't all as they seem. You can be blinded by a relationship and not see it's bad for you until something pushes you over the edge or something just hits you back into reality.
2. Chivalry is not dead.
Some people are complete a**holes. That does not include the entire male or female population. There are good people in the world even if it doesn't seem like it at the time. Everyone has their flaws, and not everyone meets at the right time. Give a person a chance and see what they have to offer, they might surprise you.
3. Don't put your full trust in someone's hands, and be careful with trusting yourself as well.
People will disappoint you again and again. But you need to be aware of your own instincts and feelings too because acting on impulse is not always the best idea. You need to take a step back, and try to understand what you're doing and what the consequences are/what will the future look like if you make this decision.
4. Don't just stay with a person because you've been with them for a while.
This is always a comment when people are debating on letting someone go or not. Sometimes time doesn't measure love, affection, and honesty. I know you might've had a thousand of memories with them, but do the cons outweigh the pros?
5. People change.
Everyone changes. Especially when you're between the ages of 16-25. Someone you meet freshman year of college is usually not the same person by senior year. Experiences can change people, for better or for worse. The person you once fell in love with or are very good friends with might be a different person a few months later, or hence, towards the end of a relationship.
7. People will surprise you (whether it's a good or bad surprise).
You can think you know someone so much, and then they do or say something that leaves you completely baffled. Again, whether it's a good or bad gesture.
8. Every ending has a reason.
I have always believed in the phrase, "if it's meant to be, it will be." Endings happen because someone isn't meant to be in your life, or you're just having a brief ending because you'll see them again when it's the right time. It's hard to come to peace about being okay with any kind of relationship ending, but it really will be okay. Life moves on, no matter what.
I could probably go on, but these are very important lessons that sometimes you cannot just read, and learn. You have to experience it to understand. Take it from me that it can take years to comprehend any of this advice, and things to look out for. I'm still learning too.
