It’s that time of the year again where you reflect on the year you've just had. You start to make New Year’s resolutions that more than likely you will forget in a month or so. Or you're making a Facebook posts about your year.
But what’s really important about starting a new year? I believe it is the lessons you learned from the previous year. You can carry over those lessons into the new year. It’s the lessons learned that play a key factor in your journey through the previous year. Also, the lessons learned help you form those New Year’s resolutions.
As I enter 2016, I start to focus more and more on the lessons I learned in 2015. I want to carry those lessons on. When we carry those lessons into the new year it helps us better ourselves. So here are a few of the lesson I learned over the past year.
1. People enter and exit your life.
I always hear the phrase, "People come and go from your life," but I like to say people enter and exit your life. You will have people enter your life for a reason and people exit your life for a reason. It's not always about who your true friends are, sometimes our lives take different paths. I realized that as I get older I drift apart from certain people. I used to get so upset about it, but I learned that it's okay because not everyone is meant to stay in my life. And it doesn't mean those people were insignificant to your life because everyone you ever met doesn't come into your life on accident.
2. Love comes and goes into your life.
I won't explain love because it's a hard concept to explain. I'll just you will come to love so many people and come to realize so many people may not love you back. It's okay if people don't love you back. Or if you stop loving someone because it's perfectly normal. In the recent year, I have let love into my life and let love out of my life. And the hardest part will be letting love back into your life and letting love go out of your life. I learned it's different for all of us.
3. It's alright to have a good cry, and even better to have a good laugh.
I shed a lot of tears in 2015 and I hate crying. I shed most of those tears late at night because some days were just so stressful. And one night I realized that sometimes you have to have a good cry because it makes you feel hell of a lot better. You know what makes you feel even better -- a good laugh at those stressful situations. It sometimes help to laugh at the stressful situations or bad things that have happened because if you can't laugh at them, you won't be able to get past them.
4. Mistakes are mistakes. Let them happen.
Oh boy, wasn't Hannah Montana right?! I make mistakes every day of the week and lots of them. And I'm scared of making mistakes, but mistakes are mistakes. Don't avoid them. You will make a mistake and let it happen. Just hold yourself accountable for the mistake. And sometimes you might make the same mistake over and over again, but don't be yourself up over it. It takes some people a little longer to learn and there's nothing to be ashamed of.
5. The truth is scary, but embrace it at the same time.
I heard a lot of truths about myself in 2015 and boy, aren't I glad I did. I'll admit it was scary at first, but I thought of it as constructive criticism. It's never easy to hear someone say something you do not want to hear. Just learn to welcome the truth. Also coming with welcoming the truth is allowing for yourself to be able to tell others the truth. Don't hold back how you feel from others, but do it in a respectable manner. It's even scarier to tell someone to the truth. It has to be done at times.
6. It's okay to want to run away from life. Just make sure you come back.
I had a series of moments in 2015 where I wanted to run away from life because things just got to be too much. And someone taught me that it is alright to run away from life just remember to come back. It's pretty much a life break which we all need from time to time. When you take these life breaks it gives you time to rejuvenate. And don't ever feel guilty for taking a life break because sometimes you earned it.
7. You're never too young or too old for your life to start to come together.
All year I was one of those people who kept saying, "Why?" over and over again. I would ask, "Why am I not in a relationship?" or, "Why don't I have an internship yet?" or, "Why I can't afford a car?" I started to realize as the year went on that my life will come together when the time is right. All these things could happen to me at age 21 or 41. There is no wrong age for your life to start to piece itself together. I tend to forget that things happen for all of us at different times. Instead of thinking about why, just enjoy the ride because in the end, everything will come together slowly but surely.



























